Heteroromantic? Gay and confused? Mostly straight? TMI alert

I think you're being open-minded and that's great, but you're also over-analyzing and that will get you nowhere (I'm in a similar situation and I think this is more common than you might think). Here's what I think: Humans are sexual creatures, we get off to watching/experiencing sexual situations. Whether that is with the same or opposite sex doesn't really matter, because it's sex. I too watch all kinds of porn (gay, straight, lesbian) with a slight preference for the lesbian stuff and I'm a female who wishes to have a heterosexual relationship, I too feel a relationship with the same gender would feel unfulfilling. The best you can do is to just shrug at the thought of being gay whenever it appears, because you'll probably never get a definite answer. To me, you don't sound gay but from experience, that sort of answer will not help much. Try to just accept that you are who you are and be grateful that you have so many different things to get aroused to.

 

It actually makes a lot of sense.

Most people aren't 100% gay or straight. Most people fall somewhere in between. Have you ever heard of the kinsey scale? Look it up and see if it fits you. From the sounds of it, you might be a Kinsey 2 or 3.

What do you mean it was supposed to be? Were you guys supposed to be boyfriends?

 

Porn isn't a good indicator of sexuality. All sorts of people like all sorts of porn. Watching gay male porn doesn't make you a gay man any more than watching lesbian porn makes you a lesbian.

Were you physically attracted to the guy you slept with? If so, you might be straight with an exception or two, heteroflexible, bisexual, or whatever you want to call it. If you weren't physically attracted to him, I'd say you're still 100% straight. You can enjoy gay sex because it feels good without actually being attracted to men.

 

It's typical for guys who are accepting their gay side to focus more on the sexual aspects and not feel romantic attraction towards other guys initially. As you become more comfortable with your sexuality, you will start to develop the ability to feel romantic attraction towards other guys.

Are you sexually attracted more to women or men?

 

To me you sound like someone straight that is open minded and experimented. I think you might be bisexual, like someone else said a Kinsey two or three. Possibly more of a two since you don't have any desire to be with a man. Did you like having sex with a man? You said you had mixed emotions, which doesn't sound like you were very pleased. Were you physically attracted to him?

 

You don't sound gay. In the sense that it probably won't happen that you marry a woman, and then some years down the line say "Oh my god I really want to be married to a man."

Although there is some skepticism (see Chip on this forum) about these labels, you sound like heteroromantic bisexual. I feel the same way too.

And to address your last sentence. Most girlfriends I have had have at least speculated about a threesome. (We are all really the same pervs.) In the MMF case, more than a few of them have said they would be turned on if I interacted with the other guy. Yes there may be some women who are weirded out -- but it's not written on your forehead you know. Definitely not a deal-breaker in any case.