Whatever I'm feeling, it's strong. I can't stop thinking about them, their expressions, voice, making them smile, cuddling up to them. I feel happy and warm when I get texts from them. Could I just be feeling like this because of how close we've got sexually, rather than it being attraction? I haven't felt like this before.
You may want to look up "limerence" on Wikipedia. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence Yes, I think you're feeling attraction. If they linger in your mind and your body feels good thinking about them, it sounds like you're attracted to them. Patrick
I definitely would say this is attraction. From the perspective of a Grey-A these are the sorts of feelings I get when I want to be close to a special someone. And as I don't desire sex, these feelings are simply pure attraction. Those two things can exist apart from one another. Sebby45
Thank you for your replies! I have had a look at limerence and grey-A, both seem accurate for my current feelings. I was confused because this person is male, and I was getting used to the idea of being a lesbian. So I like them and I'm attracted and attached to them. But I'm not feeling the electric rush feeling I have got in the past which is "butterflies" to me, and that concerns me. However I have not felt that for a long time.
Again, from a Grey-A perspective, you may or may not have feelings of sexual attraction ("butterflies" etc.) You just don't feel the need to act on them. Like I said, there is a spectrum so everyone is different. I wouldn't be worried about not feeling a rush. There are many different kinds of relationships. Just my thoughts. Sebby45
