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Comment on my experience to help me understand better

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by MiniPepper, Dec 31, 2016.

  1. MiniPepper

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    Seen a couple of threads like this, hope it doesn't become too annoying...

    I never gave my sexuality a second thought, and thus defaulted to heterosexuality, but never really found any guy i thought was attractive. I had these childish ....what shall i call them... "interests", in where I found a boy and said he was my "crush" but really, I was just trying to be like others who did have crushes and found boys to be "cute". I never truly had a crush on anyone, i thought it was strange, but that thought became a grass blade in the wind and blew out of my mind.

    Now, having been more exposed to the LGBT community and variety of sexual and romantic orientation and gender expressions, I think about my sexuality (and my gender to a degree) more than I used to and I try to analyze my own behavior to find out what really is my sexual orientation.

    I thought I was:

    Heterosexual

    Asexual, becasue I had not developed any interest in any people in my life of any gender thus far

    Lesbian (for the oddest reason), while a girl would talk to me, I would imagine kissing her and that weird-ed me out and embarrassed me :icon_redf , then there was seeing a lesbian couple in fiction and IRL made me happy inside and my heart sorta flutter. I find the female body more aesthetically pleasing than the male body. Idk if this is another reason, but I like girls with short hair cuts, but I suspect that this is probably becasue I can never cut my hair that short, it just won't work, so all I can do is admire it on others...

    Demisexual, I thought that the reason I wasn't attracted to anyone was because I didn't know them and didn't have an emotional bond with them.

    then with further research, I came to

    Bisexual, mostly because I don't fully understand the asexuality spectrum, and thought becasue I had the desire to be in a relationship, I wasn't really in that spectrum. I figured, if I was fine with dating and being in a relationship with either gender, then I must be bisexual, right?

    then I thought Pansexual, but it didn't sit well with me since I have rarely come across non binary genders so I wasn't sure about it.

    Now I sort of...settle in and out of being bisexual with the more research I try to do. One day it's, "yeah i'm Bi" next it's "Am I really bi? How do I know? Can I base it off of just becasue I am ok with either gender or is there something more to it?"

    So know I say I'm Questioning, due to the consistency of the uncertainty of the matter.

    I wanted to put this out here cause I wanted to see what others suspect my sexual orientation could be? Do you agree I am most likely bisexual or do you believe me to be something different?
     
  2. Quantumreality

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    Hey MiniPepper,

    Only you can every truly know your own sexuality. But sexuality is based on who your are romantically and sexually attracted to. You have to listen to what your body is telling you.

    There are some questions you can ask yourself that could help you to clarify your sexuality: Can you imagine yourself in a long-term, satisfying relationship with a man? Can you imagine yourself in a long-term, satisfying relationship with a woman? What gets you romantically and sexually excited? When you masturbate without pornography (porn is a very poor indicator of sexual orientation), do you fantasize about men? About women? About both men and women?


    If you are interested, there is a YouTube video with a discussion of bisexuality that is pretty good. You might want to check it out:

    How to Tell if You're Bisexual - Is Bisexuality a Choice?

    Just some thoughts.:slight_smile:
     
  3. bunnydee

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    I can say I know I am lesbian and the best thing that has ever confirmed this for me was a different video that Quantumreality posted.
    Are you Bisexual

    I cried more than I ever have watching this video. The point about dopamine rush I have only felt with women. I would suggest watching it.

    And Thank you so much Quantumreality for posting it. It was an OMG moment. Everyone should watch it who is questioning.