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Alterous Attraction

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Najlen, Jan 6, 2017.

  1. Najlen

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    So, I know that the term alterous has problems and that it can cover a wide range of things, but I'm just going to use it for now even though I don't feel like I really need a word for what I'm feeling.

    I am ace/ gray- aro. I am currently in a romantic relationship that I am very happy in. But I don't think that I experience romantic attraction with the same intensity as most people. I really love the person I'm with, and it does feel romantic. The feelings are strong but not intense. I don't know if that makes sense or not. Anyway, there's also the thing I am going to call alterous for now. It feels totally separate from romantic and platonic feelings, but it's hard to describe how. The intensity of that kind of feeling is a lot higher.

    Anyway, I'm just curious if anyone out there feels something similar and about your experience with it. I would be interested on really anyone's take to be honest. It's confusing because even though I can tell the difference fairly easily, I think it would be difficult to find someone else who felt that way about me, and that kind of relationship is something I really want eventually, either instead of or in addition to a romantic one. Thanks!