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Why is it that I am uneasy about having sex with a girl?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Pinky, Jan 11, 2017.

  1. Pinky

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    I'm bi but I am mostly attracted to women. If I think of a girl, I feel very excited if that situation turns sexual. I feel like I can do oral, kissing, etc, but if it came to having sex and involving both of us pleasuring each other (for example, with a double ended dildo) I feel gross or wrong.

    I'm not sure if this has to do with not accepting myself completely or being unexperienced...or not being exposed to lesbian sex? I have no idea. Does this happen to other women?
     
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    Hey. How recently have you accepted your sexuality?
     
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    Oral sex is still sex and many lesbians don't use strap-ons or dildos. I personally do not, as I find being penetrated repulsive. Doesn't matter if It's from a woman, man, or even a professional doing an exam.

    So really could just be a preference.
     
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    Normal. Normal normal. Normal normal normal.

    And anyway... you wouldn't get to advanced things right away. What you say you (expect to) like is all of what some people (like our BFF Creativemind) do anyway. Along with kissing and cuddling. Never skip those. :slight_smile:
     
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    A few years now but not out (only to a few close friends).

    ---------- Post added 12th Jan 2017 at 01:14 AM ----------

    Yeah, sorry I should have reworded that. I know oral is sex. I meant penetrative sex. I don't feel like it is preference for me. I actually really like the thought but I feel wrong when it comes to the act.

    ---------- Post added 12th Jan 2017 at 01:16 AM ----------

    Hmm interesting thought. I never really thought of it like that but I feel like it is something else...I really enjoy penetrative sex over oral sex but when it comes to females I feel like something is wrong...but yet it intrigues me a lot.
     
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    People actually do the double ended dildo thing?:eek: I thought that was just a pornography thing haha
    Anyway, that's totally normal. Everybody has sexual acts that they don't want to do and maybe never will do because they find it gross. Like for example I could never give a guy oral xp
    There's no rules to what you 'have' to do during sex, so relax and don't worry about it:thumbsup:
     
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    Yeah what RtR said. Strap-ons, yeah. Vibrators simply held in your partner's hand? Yeah. Double-ended dildoes? Hard to see how they would really work.

    But I see now more specifically what you are saying. Although it's hard to figure out what advice to give about it. At least the idea sounds great to you. Maybe the act will come too. (Pun sort of intended.) Whereas, if the idea was gross, that would pretty much stop the train right there.
     
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    Pinky,

    have you been with a female yet?
    You never have to do anything you don't want. The key is being with a partner you trust. For me I hate male penetration completely. As for double-ended, if they are formed right to reach the g-spot, it can be very sensual with a women. because you would have both clit and g-spot stimulation at the same time for both.
     
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    If there was a "like" button on EC, I would like this response!
     
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    Perfect advice so far. I just wanted to chuck in mine too:

    "Sex" doesn't just mean being penetrated. Sex (to me anyway, I dont give a fuck what the dictionary or anyone else says it is) is being intimate with someone you care about.

    Kissing, cuddling, booby-time (my wife's name for it), admiring skin, more kissing and cuddling, hands down there, clit, oral, more kissing and cuddling. All sex.

    Sex is what you are comfortable with. What u enjoy.

    Never do what you are not comfortable with. Find a girl who agrees, understands and respects this and you.

    That's sex. Mutual intimacy. And mutual orgasms all over the place lol