I also have problems with my gender identity, but that's another post for another day. To the topic at hand... it's complicated. It could probably be considered weird, odd, uncommon, so bear with me. So, I'm biologically male. I've always was never much into "girly girls", but I wouldn't exactly mind. My primary preference is, I guess you could say tomboys, or to a larger extent androgynous girls, even to the point where they could be mistaken for just being a guy with a feminine looking face. I guess you could say I don't mind the aesthetic look of more feminine-looking guys, but... I'm not into male sexual organs. At all. I think I'm attracted to this type because I'm constantly teased for being a little more feminine (higher pitched voice, some interests, even body structure, etc., the only masculine things are a few interests, facial hair which I usually shave.) I wouldn't mind a transgendered male pre-op (because I like that kind of thing apparently), but after... I'm not too sure. I suppose if I already developed a close enough bond, an exception might be able to made. I haven't dated anyone, and at 17, that can be a little embarrassing. So I wouldn't know about romantic attachments yet (if they ever happen). A primary fear of mine is being alone, and really, I feel my preferences are a little too specific. I'm commonly seen as not attractive by any means (as evidenced by my many rejections), so my choices are very limited, and I feel I'm a little too picky. I really hoped I wouldn't end up alone because of this. Although, in the middle of writing of this post, I see it as pointless as I've pretty much almost given up entirely on any sort of things involving love. Though knowing and discovering myself can help me a bit. To conclude, am I gay? Straight? I have really no clue.
I wouldn't say liking manly-looking/androgynous girls makes you gay. You didn't really mention how you feel about guys, being attracted to masculine-looking girls doesn't necessarily mean you'd have the same feelings towards men. As for being trans, that's a whole other ballpark, which I admit I don't know jack shit about, but going off you saying you're a guy and have attraction towards this specific type of girl, I'd have to assume you'd most likely be straight.
Sounds straight to me. Sexuality is about the gender you want to be with. You can be a straight guy who only likes guyish girls as long as you don't like men. You can be a straight guy who likes being penetrated as long as It's only by a girl with a strap-on and not by male/male anal sex. And so on. Think of lesbians who only like butch women who wear strap-ons, they aren't straight for that because butch women are women. It's just EASIER for lesbians to admit this preference because they aren't as confined to gender roles. It sucks for straight people because they have more gender roles in their culture.
Well, on the matter of how I feel about guys... like I said, they'd have to have more of that "pretty boy" or feminine-guy look, like in the face and such, but even then, like I said... I'm not really into male sexual organs. I don't mind the look of males, but I don't like their parts. So let's say dating a guy, I wouldn't mind, but sex... kind of out of the question.
So here's a pretty basic question: What do you find sexually arousing? Porn isn't a very reliable indicator, so if you masturbate without porn, what fantasies come to mind? Is it guys? girls? Super-masculine/tomboyish girls? It's not uncommon, if one is just really digging into one's sexuality, to find things that at first, unconscious wants to reject for whatever reason, but what drives us erotically is usually a pretty good indicator of where our arousal and, thus, orientation lies. If you're comfortable talking about this, it might make it easier to put the puzzle pieces together.
Well, here's the thing. I think I'd be open to dating guys, but not having sex with them. I can be romantically attracted, but not sexually because like I stated - I don't really like penises. That is true though, gender roles were explicit in my family a lot of the time, at least when I was younger.
That is a bit complicated, I guess you could be a bit more flexible. Though it will be hard to find men that want to date with no sex, so it could also pose an issue.
Well, I'm not really much into pornography anyway. And get when I mean masculine, I don't mean ones who work out to the point where they get beefed up. I don't mind them having a more feminine side, and I mean, they look like a feminine-faced boy. But... yeah. It's usually that kind of girl. An androgynous female. And... I'm not too much into masturbation either, it just makes me feel gross, just like pornography. And I don't mind the way guys look... it's just penises I don't like. That is really the only problem I have. ---------- Post added 14th Jan 2017 at 02:28 PM ---------- And to be clear, I mean androgynous females who dress like males.
It doesn't really matter. Like I said in my original post, I've almost given up on romantic entanglements. This is more about finding myself, having an identity, not finding someone to date. ---------- Post added 14th Jan 2017 at 02:25 PM ---------- When I mean masculine/tomboyish, I just mean in general, they dress like a boy and have an androgynous appearance, and that is mainly what I like. I'm not into pornography or masturbation really. It just makes me feel gross.
