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Hey all...me again....

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Akira12, Jan 17, 2017.

  1. Akira12

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    So once again I have returned to the question am I gay? Tried the suppressing the feelings and go on with my life....then watching Clem movies and seeing a shirtless Hugh jackman it all came back lol. So as I've sat here last few days contemplating I thought I'd put them out here and ask for some advice. I remember while at a friends church youth group thing and talking with this one guy and thinking my god he's cute. No hesitation or anything and just kept staring at his face and lips and such watching him and loving how adorable he was when he got so excited about something and so animated. So now I'm wondering if I was realizing my feelings yet not making it real? Also I'd love to be able to be held in a pair of strong arms telling me all will be okay and loving me and me loving him. Cuddling on the couch watching Netflix and just having that sense of comfort from him and feeling safe and secure and myself. I'm slowly working on meshing my questioning sexuality and my Christianity faith. It's a sow going progress lol. So I thought I'd ask you all wonderful people on how can I realize if I am and how did you figure it out yourself? Like I think I am yet I keep denying it at the same time so I really don't know if that makes sense? Thanks all for reading and hope you can give me some advice? Hope your all doing well and wish y'all the best! (*hug*)
     
  2. I'm gay

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    I knew at a young age that I am gay. I knew around the time of puberty, like 11, 12, 13. I was growing up in an era that was hostile to LGBT, and I didn't accept myself, so I hid in the closet for decades. But I knew. I knew it all the time. I just suppressed it.

    Here's a few questions for you to consider:

    1. When you think back to the time of puberty, did you notice that you felt different from what you were told you should be feeling? Did you have any secret crushes for boys in school?

    2. Do you think about guys when you masturbate? Or women? Or both? I'm not asking about what kind of porn you watch because porn is a bad indicator of sexuality, but think about what your fantasies are like when you masturbate without porn.

    3. Do you think about what it would be like to kiss a guy? Do you imagine yourself doing so?

    4. Do you secretly guy watch? If you're in a public place with lots of people, do you look at other guys as they walk by?

    You've grown up in a culture and religion that tells you that you are supposed to be attracted to the opposite sex. You have been taught that it's wrong to be gay or to have gay thoughts. You've been told that it's a sin.

    I don't know if you are gay, nor can anyone else here tell you if you are gay or not. Only you can decide if that is true. You will need to put your religious upbringing and cultural, societal, and parental teachings aside in order to figure this out. So, push away the guilt, shame and fear and take an honest look at your reactions when you think about both men and women in a sexual way. Be patient and listen to yourself, to your gut. Your sexual desire resides in the deepest, animalistic parts of your brain, but it's just the conscious mind that gets in the way.

    I hope these help you.

    Take care. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:ride:
     
  3. Akira12

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    1. Not that I can remember really. Mostly focused on staying invisible...school wasn't the...nicest thing lol. However I do remember having bit of a crush on one teacher in high school and thinking a few boys were cute.

    2. Hmm I guess mostly about guys thinking back. A few women here and there depending on it I guess but majority of it was men if I'm honest about it.

    3. Yes and yes. A lot. As well as cuddling hugging and just being wrapped in a pair of strong arms on the couch watching Netflix or a move.

    4. Lol yes. End up seeing a cute guy I can't help but watch his retreating back and ass.

    Think I just answered my own question being honest here.....huh
    Now what do I do now that I kinda do admit I'm gay....kinda feel lost now that I'm not debating everything again....tho also feel lighter and relieved I guess if that makes sense at all. This feels quite odd and nice....anyhow thanks for those questions it's out things in perspective I still feel like I'm kinda questioning things yet mostly know the verdict but don't want to fully admit it if that makes any kind of sense.
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