Hey, I've been questioning my sexuality for nearly 6 months now. It's slightly embarrassing but what prompted my questioning was being rejected by a woman I was attracted to. I was fairly freaked out at first but as I allowed myself to question I realised that actually being with a man wouldn't be that bad. Fast forward quite a bit, I'm at a point now where I'm actually pretty sure that I'd prefer to be in a relationship with a man than a woman. There are a couple of things that make me kind of unsure as to whether I like guys or am just confused. The first being that I don't particularly find gay porn that big of a turn on, I find gay erotica a lot more appealing. The majority of my sexual fantasies involve men and I really don't find fantasising about being with women that appealing or exciting. The second reason is wouldn't I have actually noticed myself being attracted to guys earlier if there was actually something there. I'm not really sure if porn usage has any effect on orientation but I kind of became hooked on straight porn when I was 13. I found girls my age aesthetically pleasing when growing up but I honestly can't remember wanting to be with them either romantically or sexually. I did sexually fantasise about quite a number of my female teachers though. I honestly don't know if that's because of a fetish that I picked up while watching porn or whether I was actually attracted to them. I can really only think of two women that I've had a crush on, I was attracted to their personalities but didn't really want to get physical with them. Where it gets a little bit complicated for me is that I recently just met a guy that I feel really attracted to. Compared to how I've felt about women in the past I can honestly say that my level of attraction to this guy is way stronger. I like his personality a lot but I also think he's really cute and would love to be physically intimate with him which is something fairly new for me. I currently think that I'm either bisexual being slightly more attracted to guys or gay. I don't think that I'm straight but perhaps I am and I'm just confused.
Hello, I am still trying to understand myself completely (confused mostly about my romantic orientation) but I've come to understand my sexual orientation by looking at and carefully examining the evidence and deciding what evidence is the most important. One helpful resource I would recommend is this website: Am I Gay? A Guide for People who Question their Sexual Orientation Porn, in my opinion has nothing to do with my sexual attraction. I personally find that porn turns me off no matter if it is gay, straight, lesbian, etc. This is probably partially because porn is made primarily for the male gaze.
The consensus around here is that porn prefs mean almost nothing, that erotica and masturbation fantasies count for a lot more. You can see where that leads as far as a "diagnosis". Anyway, good luck!
