Hello! I'm new here and trying to figure out how this works haha. I am currently questioning my sexuality and have been for 4 months. I thought I was bisexual but everytime I start to accept it truly, I think about how maybe I'm a lesbian. I keep questioning if I really am attracted to males or not. I was wondering if anyone had similar troubles at the beginning? Any advice or really anything is great! Thank you!
Everbody questions. Everybody. Did I say everybody? You are in such (good) company. In fact your first sentence after Hello could just summarize it for all of us... with its multiple meanings. That's all we are all trying to do. OK, you want practical advice, not philosophy. Here are some rules of thumb that have stood the test of time. One, what kind of porn you like (if you do) doesn't mean anything. People are all over the waterfront on that one. More important: who do you see yourself kissing? Making out with? Moving in with? Living life with? Also masturbation fantasies (sans porn) or maybe literary erotica give you a clue as to whether you are way on one side (straight or gay) or right in the middle. It seems those are the secure places to be. Anywhere else just leaves people in a whirl of self-questioning. It shouldn't, because what you *are* isn't firmly established until you have lived your whole life! What you *do* is something you can work on now. Oh, final suggestion: browse through older postings on this forum. That's how you will see what kind of (good) company you are in.
