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Hello, I need help as I'm overthinking massively.

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Hgsashgs, Jan 22, 2017.

  1. Hgsashgs

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    So basically, I've never really questioned my sexuality til around July 2016, when I broke up with my girlfriend of 9 months out of the blue. All my physical attraction went with no explanation. In my head, the only explanation for this was because I may be gay.

    go back a few years and I have never thought of being gay, I have never been sexually attracted to men (thought some may be good looking but that's just out of appreciation). I have also been bullied for a good year by people saying I was gay or they thought I was which gets to me a lot. I have always done things with girls and only ever spoke to girls.

    However, it was til July that I started questioning things. I'm no longer attracted to females nor am I males but I will become aroused when watching either gay or straight porn. 'Y head is a mess and I really want answers! What do you guys think?

    P.s my olde brother is gay and so is some of my friends
     
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    Hi Hgsashgs and welcome to EC. I understand how you feel. I too never questioned my sexuality until about 2 or 3 weeks ago, so I know what your're going through. I haven't lost my attraction to females though, so I'm not sure why you have. Did something bad happen in your life over the last year that might have caused your interest in girls to vanish? Could it be the bullying you received that's causing this?
     
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    Do you think you might just be experiencing a sudden drop in sex drive? That's something to talk to a doctor about.

    It's unusual for attraction to just suddenly disappear, but it would be particularly unusual for someone who has always been attracted to women to suddenly be gay. If you're interested in men, you may be bisexual, but if you've been genuinely attracted to women for years, it's unlikely that you're gay.

    Porn preference isn't a good indicator of sexuality. Lots of people are into porn that doesn't line up with their real world preferences or orientation.
     
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    Hello, thankyou for your replies. I have always had girlfriends, I'm currently 17 and have had two seriously long relationships with girls. It's hard to explain abit what's gone on over the past two years without getting really deep but I'll do it briefly. My first girlfriend was abit of a bad egg as you could say. She blamed a lot of her doings on me and thugs got very serious but let's not go onto that. What happened with her has massively affected my life and has resulted in me developing a diagnosed anxiety disorder. Fun times! Not.
    The only reason I broke up with my ex was because of this lack of attraction etc but this was also during exam time when I was under a massive amount of stress and last time I had exams I was with my first proper girlfriend and that's when everything went down hill so the two may have a link.
    I've never looked at a male and thought they were super attractive etc? It's a confusing thing but in my head I never think sexuality is fixed. That's my opinion but I'm rather philosophical
     
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    A massive amount of stress, anxiety and exams can affect your body and mind. It's likely the reasons for your loss of interest but then again I could be wrong.
     
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    It's unlikely you are gay, you probably just have a low sex drive. This can be caused by various reasons. I have a very low sex drive myself so I'm usually not attracted to people of any gender.