Title says it all, been married over 25 years have theee kids 21 and older and several years ago I had first experience with a guy while traveling , marriage on surface been great sort of perfect couple kind of but obviously something happened that permitted me to cheat on wife which obviously is bad period . That aside as I deal with that my sexuality is my issue , I don't know nor hard to label how I feel. The affairs were solely sex mostly guys in 20's-40's and I have found many married men have been having sex with guys. None was emotional it all was sex but obviously deep inside it probably is more . In therapy trying to figure it out and just curious on anyone out there dealing with it etc ? Thanks all and yes I am aware infidelity is a horrible thing and I take full responsibility for it , my wife is wonderful and awesome and never deserved it period .