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Dreaming straight

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by toishi, Feb 26, 2017.

  1. toishi

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    Hi!

    I have been very confused in the past 2 years, I'm a 23 yo boy and never had doubt about my heterosexuality until 21, when me and my ex gf broke up.

    Since then, I noticed feelings for boys and that confused me a lot. I tried gay porn, and I really liked it, but never had a real gay experience. I don't use porn anymore since some months ago btw.

    I question my sexuality everyday and I think I'm getting obsessed over it, but that's why I feel like I like girls, but I can't get aroused fantasizing about them anymore (I am a very shy person and had some sexual performance anxiety in the past, a thing that blocked me from having any other relationship after my last one). My big doubt is that I could have conditioned and repressed myself by overthinking about sexuality, the other thing is that it is undeniable that I get aroused fantasizing about boys (but just in certain situations and with a certain state of mind, don't know, I'm really going crazy).

    However, now I'm dating a girl which I really like, but for which I can't feel aroused for if I fantasize about her, the same for every other girl (if I hear her voice from the phone, or she sends me not-nude pictures i istantly have a semi-erection, but.. don't know, not an erection I would "act on it". I would just like to meet her to dissipate any doubt).

    The point is, in the last 2 months I have been recurrent dreams about me with her or with other girls, and never in my life had gay dreams.

    Is it possible I'm gay or bi even if I never dream about boys? I mean, if it would be in my nature not to be straight, how could it be that I only dream about girls?

    Thank you for your time and have a nice day!