Hi everybody all new here. I was wondering about what I am. Can I be bisexual even though I have never been with another woman, kissed or touched?
Hello! To answer your question: I think you're a lesbian when you are only sexually attracted to females, and a bisexual when you are sexually attracted to both males and females. So, if you want to know if you are really attracted to girls, you can ask yourself this question: when you masturbate, can you get aroused by girls (without watching porn) and is masturbating while thinking about girls satisfying to you? If you can get aroused by girls and masturbating while thinking about girls feels natural and satisfying to you, then you are probably attracted to girls. You can also use this masturbation test if you want to test if you are truly attracted to guys. You do not need to have any sexual or intimate experience with either gender to know your sexual orientation. You can know what your sexual orientation is by determining to which gender(s) you are sexually attracted. And you can determine whether you are sexually attracted to males, females or both by masturbating.
You have a certain orientation. Identifying as this orientation is completely separate from actually acting in any way. A celibate person still has a sexual orientation (and it isn't asexual most of the time) even though they don't sleep with anyone. A gay man married to a woman is still gay... So yes, it is absolutely valid to identify as bi even though you have never kissed another woman. Though I would warn you that fantasy and reality can be separate things and you can enjoy fantasies of things you wouldn't like in real life. Sexuality is a complicated thing, and some times actual experience is very valuable in determining your orientation. But it is not needed. Lots of closeted gays know that they are gay but have never touched another person, out of fear or rejection. They probably know they are gay... Adding to the "masturbation" test loveislife suggested I would add a general attraction test. If you are attracted to women and men in the "wild", then you are probably bi. This might not happen with the same frequency or intensity. In my opinion, bisexuals are identifiable by "recurring" attraction to more then one gender. In the end, a label is only a word. You can change it any time you like and it will probably not always fit perfectly. Humans love boxes, but we rarely fit them completly. Just make sure you are honest with yourself and potential partners of any gender. I wish you all the best in figuring out where you want to go.
The short answer is yes, definitely. The longer answer is to say something like "If straight people know they are straight before dating/kissing/sex then gays/bis can be that way also." Good luck with your first girl kiss. They are great.
You don't need to act on it to know. I've identified as a lesbian for 12 years and still have yet to kiss or sleep with a girl. An actual lesbian could sleep with a random girl and dislike the experience for reasons unrelated to gender (not her type, bad in bed, personality type incompatible with casual sex, etc), so sometimes it's not an indicator.
