Here goes it I am 49 and married. Iove him to death and we have great sex. We watch girl girl porn(well we watch most porn) . Ever since I can remember I have masturbated thinking about being with a woman. So we had a threesome a few weeks ago and it was incredible ! She was going down on me while he took her from behind. Since then she has asked just me to have sex with her. I told her that thought did not turn me on. Only with him did I find it exciting. So am I bi ? I thought if I were bi I would have sex alone with either. If not bi I think pervert is the only word to describe me and that scares me. Anybody else like me ?
"Flexible" sounds like the term for you. You might still be bi, she might just not be THE ONE. But really, you are being reasonable here. Now, maybe you didn't set out the boundaries beforehand with a long talk or a signed contract (just kidding) or something. So she is within her rights (I would say) to indicate that she liked it a lot and wouldn't mind some private time with you. It should always be OK to ask. It's just that you are also perfectly justified in saying No thanks, that's off-limits. It sounds to me like he's a lucky guy, you are a lucky girl, and she is lucky if she can accept the rules. What if she falls head-over-heels for you? (Emotions do that sort of thing.) Re perv? No way. Maybe if you had felt some overwhelming emotional bond to her then maybe we could agree: yes you have some bi in you. The way it is, you enjoyed something that most people (if they would confess) would enjoy, without it derailing their basic straightness. Just my opinion, but sometimes outside perspective is useful!
Thanks! I really do not find the idea of one on one girl exciting. But him being with me drives me wild. I hope she does not develop feelings. She knows I am crazy about my husband. I want to do it again but I think she might not be up for it. I wonder where I could find a woman willing?
