Don't want to be straight

I'm confused about my own sexuality so I'm not sure that I can help you with that bit, but I know you should never ever not want to be something you are not, especially with the main intention of fitting in more, or being worried about not having "the same bond that the LGBTQ community have together". As you said, "none of [your] close friends are now known as straight", and I can only imagine the pressure and lack of solidarity you must feel, but perhaps the mere diversity of your friend circle may unite you. After all, who else would be better at accepting people for who they are?
I hope you get some more advice about your sexuality, and I know sexuality can change with age, but I hope you've not just started to feel confused just because you want to be anything else but straight. Stay true to yourself; your happiness comes first.

 

For me, I can only judge my sexuality based on who I'm romantically attracted to because I can only become sexually attracted to someone *after* that romantic attraction is there.
My sister on the other hand, has the ability to notice some builders walk by the window, see nothing but the back of their heads, run up to the window and say "ooo are they hot?"

I actually find that it's easier for me to think a guy is good-looking than a woman (because as I've said, thinking something like that about a woman before I know her is gross to me.) There are some men with really nice faces who I could just sit and admire. However I've kissed guys in the past and it didn't feel the way the other girls had described it. It wasn't disgusting or anything - though probably because I was subconsciously forcing myself to like it because I was expected to - but there was no connection at all. It was like kissing a potato. Just boring.
Also I don't think I would ever sleep with a man but it has never stopped me from watching men in porn.
There are also just simple things though - such as who's hand do I want to hold? (a woman's.)

I suppose the gay = interesting mentality is probably very common, and in many ways a good thing if helps gay people feel more valued and accepted.

My point is that sexuality is very complicated and different for certain people, so I can see why you'd be confused, especially with the 'gay=interesting' on top of it all. Can you see yourself in fulfilling relationships with both?

 

The main thing is to be open with yourelf. You may be straight but the feeling of all your friends being LGBT could make you feel isolated and as if you dont belong in that group. Im bi and my group of friends are all straight. It feels really hard to be relatable with them and I often feel that my life coud be better if I were straight. But we were born who we are and its best for you to embrace it. In your case I recommend that you tell your friends how you feel as I find thagt LGBT people are much more open and supportive and straight forward than straight people are. If you feel as if you have a genuine attraction towards the same sex, tell them! Friends are always friends because if a reason and you should always be open and supportive together. hope this helps!

 

There's no guarantee that being LGBT means you are going to experience a bond stronger than you may find elsewhere.

 

First about the LGBT connection thing:

I'm a lesbian, but I don't have the LGBT bond with anyone that you're describing. In many ways I act more like a different sexuality (stereotype wise) other than what I'm attracted to. For example, whenever LGBT friends go on and on about their sexuality, I get annoyed by it (however, I also get annoyed whenever straight people go on and on about their sex lives and heterosexuality as well).

I had a lesbian friend who would talk about being a lesbian literally all the time. Meanwhile, I never mention being a lesbian in ordinary chats. I mostly talk about hobbies and intellectual debates. My sexuality is not interesting to me and I don't want to discuss it. I also am not limited to interest in my own sexuality; for example, I actually like heterosexual fiction and even write it. In fact, my friend and I mostly talk about a heterosexual fictional couple, even though neither of us have hetero attractions.

I also have a low sex drive, do not notice "hot girls" ever, and am very prudish/sex-repulsed, contrary to the gay stereotype. I tend to have the most in common with my asexual friend, and most people would probably assume I was asexual when they first talk to me (even though I'm just gay).

So just because someone is gay, doesn't mean they'll fit the stereotype of being more interesting or different than heterosexual people. I certainly am not. So don't feel worried about being straight as we'd fit in together just fine.

However, maybe the feelings you have for girls is an indicator you aren't even straight.

 

If you really do know for a fact that you are sexually attracted to women, then you, dear, are by definition not straight. We can debate all day about sexual and romantic attraction differences, but in the end, it is called "sexual orientation" for a reason. From your post, it sure sounds like you're one of us.

Don't worry about being on the "outs" of your circle of friends. My circle of friends encompasses multiple sexualities and I love them all. Yours will too.

Take care. ride:

 

I wonder if it's just a little early for you and the waters haven't settled yet. Also, it's possible that the answer isn't all that cut and dry.

I think I can relate. I really haven't seen myself dating guys* and there have been times where I just felt cruised, but recently there were a couple of times where a guy showed interest and it felt comfortable and was really appreciated. With women, I can really enjoy the energy but all too often it feels like we're just waiting for cues from each other. I mentioned those recent times to my sister, and she replied about being hit on. I really didn't feel like I was being hit on, so it might be a difference in ...perceived volume, for lack of a better term?

*Ok you in the back, quit laughing.