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Started co-ed school and I dont even know mysef anymore

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by TheOneCactus, Mar 6, 2017.

  1. TheOneCactus

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    Im 15 and have for 9 years been going to a all boys school. We moved 3 months o from England to Luxembourg and I now go to a co-ed international school. My main problem is that I cant relate to members of the same sex (who im 99% sure are dead straight). This is my first time ever going to a school with girls and I just feel so much more inclined to be in their social groups than anytime in my last 9 years at a boys only school. I only sometimes have sexual thoughts and 50% of the time its about girls and the other 50 is about the same sex. At this point I dont know about how and why but it is one of the sftrangest experiances ive ever had. I currently identify as Bi purely out of uncertanty but am unlikely to come out at any point kin time before actually understanding what I actually am. Ive always been a pretty social person and always gave hugs to both girls and boys when ever something feels wrong about them (e.g. if they look upset) but ive had same gender thoughts since ive been 12. I enjoy being friends more wuth girls than boys but I never consider them sexually. At the same time, a concept of having a girlfriend is intriguing and I would happily be in a relationship with a girl if the opertunity arose. If anyone could help I would be super happy. I would speak to my parents but were a slavic family and I really dont know how it would turn out. thanks again, :thumbsup:
     
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    No offense, but I don't really understand what you are trying to ask. You are saying you want to be in the girls' social groups? There is nothing wrong with that, go for it.

    Personally, I like being friends with boys more than girls. I mean, it's easier to talk to men sometimes. Women tend to be more...petty. I don't mean that in a bad way at all. I just prefer the more straight-forward conversations I have with men, than the types of conversations that women tend to have. I mean, girl talk is nice every once in while, but usually not. So yeah. I tend to like befriending men more.
     
  3. TheOneCactus

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    Sorry, just to clarify, my main question here is to find out whether im LGBT and if so which one it is. sorry if that wasnt clear XD
     
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    Hey TheOneCactus,

    Ultimately only you can understand your own sexuality. At your age there is no need to rush into any conclusions for yourself.

    The fact that you prefer to be in social groups with girls more than boys isn't really an indicator of your sexuality.

    You say that you have some, infrequent sexual thoughts towards both boys and girls. That could, of course, be an indicator that you might be bisexual.

    If you are interested, you might want to watch these YouTube videos about bisexuality.

    Are You Bisexual - Quiz (Am I bisexual)

    How to Tell if You're Bisexual - Is Bisexuality a Choice?

    Beyond that, have you ever had a crush on anyone?

    There are also so questions you can ask yourself that can hopefully help you identify your attractions. Can you imagine yourself to be romantically involved with a gal? With a guy? With both guys and gals? When you masturbate (without pornography - because pornography is a terrible indicator of sexual orientation), do you fantasize mostly about gals? About guys? About guys and gals?

    Of course, there is no definitive 'test' to identify your sexuality, but perhaps some of this may help you in your journey towards understanding and accepting your own sexuality.:slight_smile:
     
    #4 Quantumreality, Mar 7, 2017
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