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Old 20th Mar 2017, 04:37 PM   #1
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Lesbians how do you feel around guys?

Lesbians how do you feel around guys?
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Old 20th Mar 2017, 05:17 PM   #2
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Re: Lesbians how do you feel around guys?

Neutral/Indifferent? Like, I can care for them as a friend, but not more.
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Old 20th Mar 2017, 05:34 PM   #3
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Re: Lesbians how do you feel around guys?

I'm not a women, but I can post my feelings cause it shows no gender.

I tend to feel anxious around macho insecure men who like to flaunt their machoness. Around just people who tend to be more a mix between masc and fem I feel indifferent.
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Old 20th Mar 2017, 05:41 PM   #4
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I tend to feel anxious around macho insecure men who like to flaunt their machoness. Around just people who tend to be more a mix between masc and fem I feel indifferent.
I feel the same. Super macho-men make me feel awkward. I'm definitely not a "man's man"
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Old 20th Mar 2017, 06:10 PM   #5
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Re: Lesbians how do you feel around guys?

Of course, there are different contexts for how I feel around guys. Generally, they're pretty cool but of course I'm not falling over myself to date them. A lot of the guys I know are kind of ridiculous, so I guess sometimes I don't really understand why they do some ridiculous things. Of course, I am only talking about guys I know.
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Old 21st Mar 2017, 04:09 AM   #6
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Re: Lesbians how do you feel around guys?

i feel just...ok? i can't even see them as friends because most of the times i have nothing in common with guys so..
when i wasn't aware of my sexuality i used to feel uncomfortable around them because i thought i had to please them somehow... even if i didn't like them! it's weird haha
now obviously i don't even care..
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Re: Lesbians how do you feel around guys?

I'm not sure if I'm lesbian or bi or what, but I actually tend to feel more comfortable with men on a conversation level. I'll occasionally notice a guy is good looking, but that's it.
Now for friendship; yes, all my friends are women.
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Old 21st Mar 2017, 05:33 AM   #8
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Re: Lesbians how do you feel around guys?

I used to feel more comfortable around guys, more joking less gossiping. But now, I am aware of my sexuality and grown as a woman more. I still feel comfortable, only I like to be silly or go into deep philosophy, now I am worried I give mixed signals sometimes. Unless they have a partner already.
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Old 21st Mar 2017, 06:23 AM   #9
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I'm not a women, but I can post my feelings cause it shows no gender.

I tend to feel anxious around macho insecure men who like to flaunt their machoness. Around just people who tend to be more a mix between masc and fem I feel indifferent.
I feel the same. Super macho-men make me feel awkward. I'm definitely not a "man's man"
When I do start to feel anxious about this I just think back to this Dead Kennedys Song "Macho Insecurity" cause I know they put on that facade just to hide themselves.

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Old 21st Mar 2017, 07:58 AM   #10
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I'm not a women, but I can post my feelings cause it shows no gender.

I tend to feel anxious around macho insecure men who like to flaunt their machoness. Around just people who tend to be more a mix between masc and fem I feel indifferent.
Same! But I feel just fine around my guy coworkers and supervisors, who are all around my age. Indifferent really - i mean i care about them as people and i'll notice if they could be considered good looking, but that's as far as it goes. But yeah, around that type of man in the quote, i just feel awkward, anxious.
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Old 22nd Mar 2017, 12:40 PM   #11
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Re: Lesbians how do you feel around guys?

I always feel more comfortable around guys as I always worry that women think there's a hidden agenda.

However the only friends I have in rl are women. 2 straight and 1 gay. I get paranoid around my straight friends sometimes.

However due to my anxiety and depression I no longer go out and the thought of talking to anyone face to face is overwhelming
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Old 22nd Mar 2017, 02:27 PM   #12
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Re: Lesbians how do you feel around guys?

Since other male people have posted here too, I'll post my thoughts. It doesn't matter to me weather you're male, female, or something else, I rarely have a problem being around people. The main time I can think of where I'd feel weird or shy around people is if I have a crush on them but even then, sometimes that doesn't even happen.
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