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Can you know your sexuality before sex?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by dudette, Mar 30, 2017.

  1. dudette

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    If you get turn on by 3rd person fantasies with man and woman,
    but do not get turn on by first person fantasies with woman, but it does with man
    then are you gay or bisexual?
     
  2. Zen fix

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    I'm not entirely sure what you are asking. You can separate your fantasies between first and third person like a video game?

    When this third-person perspective fantasy becomes a turn on what is it that makes it exciting? Is it the guy, the woman or something else?
     
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    Yes. I'm pansexual and I've never had sex.
     
  4. I'm gay

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    I'm not entirely sure what you mean by "3rd person fantasies." It sounds like you fantasize about watching a man and woman having sex and that's a turn-on, and you fantasize about you having sex with a guy, but not you having sex with a woman. Do I have that right? If not, please correct me.

    It's hard to tell from this little information, but I think it's telling that you don't put yourself in the role of having sex with a woman in your fantasies. The idea of heterosexual sex is only a turn-on if you're watching it. Do you watch straight porn? I'm just wondering if that's influencing your fantasies.

    Are any of your fantasies about any real people, or are they just nameless and/or faceless people?

    Outside of masturbation fantasy, do you experience any crushes in your life to either men or women? Do you find yourself checking out a cute guy, or a cute girl?

    There are many clues to your sexuality if you pay attention to your desires, and masturbation fantasy (without porn) are often good indicators, but there are other clues as well.

    Overall, you want to know if you are gay or bisexual, but perhaps you could start with the idea that you're at least not straight.

    Take care. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:ride: