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Bisexual to biromantic lesbian to lesbian to demisexual biromantic?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Scorpio1024, Apr 1, 2017.

  1. Scorpio1024

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    I can look at woman and find her attractive instantly being turned on by. A man I can not do the same for. A man I can feel butterflies for (romantic attraction) but, it takes time for me to be turned on. What exactly would my label be? I've dated 4 men ever and have dated more women than I can count. What's going on? It seems as though no label fits me. :eusa_doh: :help:
     
  2. Creativemind

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    I would just call it bisexual (unless you don't want to sleep with men at all, then lesbian works). You can just clarify that your attractions to the genders are different; you feel instant attraction to women, but for men that takes time. It's still a flavor of bisexuality :slight_smile:

    Keep in mind that everyone is different. I'm a lesbian, but my feelings for women are exactly like your feelings for men. I have never in my life been instantly turned on or attracted to a woman (at first sight). I've always gotten to know her and then was turned on later after romantic attraction. For men, I feel literally nothing; not attracted to them instantly and not attracted to them when I get to know them. But I'd still prefer to use lesbian than "demisexual". Not everyone is attracted to people they meet on first sight.
     
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  3. AbsoluteNerd

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    Lol, you sound like the female version of me. I just go with bisexual, the extra detail isn't really that important to me, and might cause extra confusion. My two cents