Hello everyone! So I just want to ask all of you wonderful folks one thing! I am 19 years old and seriously and crazily confused about my sexuality, so like... 4 months ago it was at a state that I was unsure maybe 60-40 in favor of boys! But seriously now I am like 90-10 by now, I have read so many different stories with different outcomes, saying that many people get this as part of growing up etc, but I just can't help but feel that I am just turning gay. Literally walking past every guy I see, I get some... hmmm... urges to do certain things. I know it sounds pathetic! I have given it a lot of thought and really have come to realise that I could be attracted emotionally to men without any problems, the issue here is that my interest in women fades soo quickly it makes me suspicious, in the past 2 years I went from fully straight to what most likely is gay. I am scared to do anything about it, terrified to try and flirt or go to gay clubs so they can flirt with me, as I am still unsure of what will come out of it, though maybe I'm just trying to convince myself that I am not gay. I won't talk to anyone about it either... I think that maybe having sex with a guy would clarify the view for me, but I am afraid that one I go down that alley, there will be no turning back and I find some confort sitting on the fence (Not for long though!!) Pleease help me in this hour of greatest need !:bang::bang: Thaank you!
Sexuality can be surprisingly fluid, so I guess it's best to find peace in going with the flow. (pun kinda intended)
I can relate very much. I am about to turn 21, but at 19 I was just figuring out my sexuality. As skittlz said, sexuality is fluid. In a year and a half I have come from not wanting to accept my bisexuality, to accepting it, to trying desperately to be a lesbian (long story), to accepting my bisexuality again. I'm now at a point of questioning again, and am currently labelling it as "mostly gay." I get where you're coming from, you said that your interest in women faded so quickly that it made you suspicious. Same for me (except opposite obviously :lol, but sometimes these things move fast and other times not so much. Just take it one day at a time. It may take some time, but some day you might have it all figured out. Hang in there until then
Hi and welcome. Your experience is actually quite common. It isn't so much that you are 'turning' gay, or that your sexual orientation is fluid. What typically goes on is that we grow up in a hetero world and naturally assume we are straight. And for some of us, we stay in blissful ignorance or denial -- which can be incredibly powerful -- until something happens where the underlying feelings, which have been there all along, start to surface, and can no longer stay under the wraps of denial. As this happens, it can appear to come out of nowhere, but the truth is, it really is just something breaking through. As we process any loss (in this case, the loss of perception as straight), there are stages we go through... Denial-anger-bargaining-grief-acceptance. And as wee move through the stages, our perception and understanding changes, and along with it, our perception of our attractions. Many, many people in the early stages of self-acceptance describe the feeling of suddenly losing the opposit-sex attraction. But what is really going on is it is overshadowed by the surfacing of the authentic attraction. If you are finding yourself looking at guys more than girls, masturbating to fantasies of guys, watching gay porn... Then that's a pretty clear indicator you are gay, or at least at the gay end of the spectrum. That may be a pretty terrifying thought. Which is understandable, and which, with time, will become more comfortable and normal feeling. The key is, there's no rush to any of this. Take your time, explore your feelings, and just let things evolve naturally.
