Hi. Currently I identify myself as gray bi. I want to know the correct term that should be used for my sexuality, especially when others ask it, as I don't want people to misunderstand me. I'm sexually attracted to: Most girls (I dislike boobs and ass, so girls with big boobs/ass are really not my thing) Very very few kinds of guys (maybe none after having my boyfriend) My boyfriend I'm romantically attracted to: Most guys (including my boyfriend) Very few kinds of girls I believe sexually attracted to girls is a hormone stuff. Generally, I don't mind being with any gender. I find myself to be more romantically attracted to guys because I feel more comfortable with their personalities than girls, and I will be romantically attracted to the person I love eventually, which is natural. Please help me with this, thanks a lot!
I'd say you're bi. This is just a label - why r u so concerned about a label? I ask bec u seem overly concerned w the label. The label is like the menu at a restaurant - it's the food that's more important! A bisexual doctor named Fritz Klein wrote a book about bisexual people. In addition to the Kinsey 0-6 scale, he identified underlying scales for bisexuals: sexual preference, relationship preference, social preference. For instance, I like sex w both women & men, but I prefer women for relationships, as I like the yin/yang effect of the feminine & masculine …more than the yang/yang effect of a gay relationship. Forget sex for a minute: what do like & dislike about hanging w a girl … & about hanging w a guy?
I say forget the label. Think of yourself as being you. If anyone asks me I just say it's complicated and if they care enough then I try to explain.
Thanks for the replies! :icon_wink It's just that I want an answer when someone question about me. When I say bi people think I mean I like both male and female equally, which is not actually correct. It's hard to explain to them (I don't really want to). I guess I'll just go with "bi but a lot different". Thanks again!
wow! reading your thread remind me of myself, I was terrible at identifying myself! I m 34yo now and consider myself mostly straight male, but... with slight gender fluidity issues. I was a trans-woman (I don't think I was born that way!) until 20yo. Then for the next 8+ years I was straight male; and then something happen and I have this gender fluidity until now. I m living and working in an Islamic country so I have to be closeted. Maybe I might share my story next week since it's a long weekend.
