ok, this is the first time that i am discussing my sexuality on here so this should be kind interesting (or boring and repeatitive, in that case, sorry) i like this girl at my uni, i enjoy just staring at her (stalkerish i know) and think about her before i go to sleep. romantically i want to be with her but sexualy there is pretty much nothing there. meanwhile with guys i am defiently sexually attracted to them but has yet to have this romantic attraction to them. meanwhile this isnt to say i cant see myself with a guy its just thati havnt had that feeling for a guy yet. so does this then make me bi, just on the high side on kinsey scale, or does this mean that i am gay. a point on my sexual attraction to girls. i dabbled with straight porn (guess thats what i will call it) before or as i started going through puberty (dont judge ) and i am pretty sure that back then i was defiently sexual attracted to them. so also just wondering if i could of either grew out of it or got bored of it? or if neither such thing exsists . sorry but im asking a few things in there but i just wanted to put it all down as it was in my head thanks in advance
I think it's definitely possible that any of your feelings - sexual or romantic - can change. I started with being attracted both sexually and romantically to girls, and that has changed into every combination with girls and guys. These changes aren't really anything to place hope in, or to bank upon though, because as far as I can tell, it all happened without any warning or effort on my part - ie I had no control over what I've been attracted to.
Like whatever the fuck you want; I don't see why everyone has this fixation of attaching a label to every single thing. /quick rant over
I know you are not supposed to judge someone's sexuality over the internet, but from what you describe I'd say you are probably gay. Sexual attraction generally leads to other attractions. I never once was romantically attracted to men (like "oh I wish he were my boyfriend and we could be with each other") until after I admitted to myself I was gay. Now looking back, I never was really romantically attracted to women, I was just really attracted to their personalities in a friend way. And just because you are gay doesn't mean you don't like to look at good liking women. But there's that something special, something completely different inside you with hot men than women. I'm only being this upfront because you are my age and I had the same concerns at one point not too long ago and I was trying to figure myself out. Basically what you wrote could've been written by me a few months ago. And I disagree with RaRa. I feel like you should know who you are. It helps a lot with your self esteem and happiness. But take your time figuring it out and try not to stress out about it. Just keep an open mind and try to be honest with yourself.
And if you like whatever you want it would eventually lead you to 'find out who you are'. I don't see how you can disagree with that. Unless constantly questioning yourself and speculating is all you want to accomplish. To me it sounds like he's bisexual. I don't get where people come off discounting bisexuals because they don't have that strong of a sexual attraction to one sex or the other. Not everyone wants to make their relationships all about sex. I bet I'll hear the "but you need sexual attraction for a healthy relationship." Well no shit, that comes after romantic attraction.
