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Need to decide my sexuality

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Guitarguy, Aug 12, 2011.

  1. Guitarguy

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    I'm unsure about my sexuality right now and I could really use some help.*
    First of all let me say that strongly think that I am gay and have no problems with that. In fact I really want to come out as soon as possible. I even have a plan to do that soon.*
    The only problem is that I think that I might be bisexual.*
    I would much rather be gay than bi
    Because I'm definitely not straight.*
    If you tell someone that you're bi they think that it's just a phase you are going through. But gay is more of a definite thing.*
    Anyways as I was saying. I like guys and find it difficult to picture myself having sex with a woman but I still find them attractive. This leads me to the interesting thought that I might be going through a heterosexual phase.*
    If anyone can help me decide whether I am gay or bi I would greatly appreciate it.*
     
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    First of all, let me just say that I think what you're going through is completely normal, as I went through it myself. I used to think I was bi for the longest time because of the same thing you are going through. I now know that I am a lesbian, but it used to confuse me all the time, because I would still find guys attractive, but not want to do anything.

    The point is, that you can still appreciate that someone of the opposite sex is good-looking, even if you are gay. You just don't have to/want to be in a relationship or do anything with them.

    In your case, I think it would be safe in saying that you are gay, based on the fact that you like guys, and cannot really picture yourself doing something with a woman.

    So, I hope this can help you a little bit. :slight_smile:
     
  3. Guitarguy

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    Thank you so much floating piano you have reasured me so much. I've been very confused lately and you have help so much. I know that you may be a lesbian and I might be gay but I still love you.
     
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    You're extremely welcome, GuitarGuy. :slight_smile: I'm glad i have helped you so much. That's why I joined this site, not only to reassure me, but others as well. :slight_smile: And that's so sweet of you too say. :grin: If you ever need anymore advice, you can always ask me. :slight_smile:
     
  5. Danny19

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    I went through this exact thing. in fact when i first signed on to this i put my orientation as bi. I even wanted a girlfriend, i felt attracted to one of my closest friends. but i was wrong..i was just going back and forth in my head.anyways when i came out for the first time it didnt feel right to say i was bi, but i ignored it. when i came out to the 2nd person i said i was gay, and it felt right. So then i started asking myself if i really felt attracted to women as i thought. But the more i thought about it the more i knew i wasnt bi. The way i feel about dudes is way different than how i feel about girls. Now im definitely sure i was right in coming out as gay and not bi. I still find women very pretty and attractive. Just not for me.

    I know this isnt really any advice, but maybe it can help you see how it can go about..
     
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    Well, being bisexual is a "definite" thing. Not a phase. But, you aren't bi - you've stated you're not sexually attracted to girls which is needed to be a bi or straight guy.
     
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    Most people go thru the same thing, well I did anyway. it took me time before I knew how I felt so don't rush into anything, Give your self time to figure things out :slight_smile:
     
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    You don't need to decide anything now. Since you're like 14? Heck, even I am not really sure about my sexual orientation. So, take your time ( like me ), if you feel like coming out, just explainning to them that you're unsure and stuff.