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Wondering about my orientation

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Omla, Feb 16, 2013.

  1. Omla

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    - I go to a gay sauna and on the way home
    Go to a gorgeous asian "masseuse" and get jerked off.

    I constantly ? My sexuality but have an addiction to
    Asian massage.

    I pine for the moms at my daughters school.

    And more

    On the gay side..

    Most intense orgasms

    Most relaxed vibe

    Earthy

    My mo
     
  2. TwoMethod

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    Well what's there to question about your sexuality? It sounds like you are bisexual, but that you definitely have a preference for the gay side.

    You don't have to fit into the three subgroups: gay, bisexual or straight. Human nature is complicated, and by extension, so is sexuality. You can experience varying levels of attraction for men and women.

    If you pine for the moms at your daughter's school and have very intense orgasms when with men, then it seems like you do have a passion for men and women, though not equally.
     
  3. Omla

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    I actually may think the pining is more important to me.
    Don't really know.
    I may sort of straight / romantic, and gay/ sexual
    I don't know at this time.

    Thank you for the nice response.

    ---------- Post added 17th Feb 2013 at 10:19 PM ----------

    I should add that I basically only look at women,
    And am constantly preoccupied when they are around.
    ?
     
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    I don't get what you mean about the "pining being more important to you". Are you saying so that you feel a stronger romantic attraction to women?

    When you say you are constantly preoccupied when women are around, do you mean that you are worried what they will think of you? As in you want them to like you?

    And what about your romantic attraction to men? Do you have any romantic attraction to men?
     
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    Are these gay feelings (sexual and/or romantic) recent? Have you had them before?
     
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    I seem to have no romantic attraction toward men.
    Perhaps if I entered into the gay world more I would.
    But so far kind of none.

    In reply to 2 above guy, I do want them to like me.

    Split as I am I fear I can't fully uphold my side of the bargain.

    Maybe I need women who are primarily ROMANTICALLY
    Drawn to men.

    Thank you as always for your replies.

    I am a bit raw about all this as I am also 55 years old.
    ( hope that doesn't make people on the forum lose interest in me)

    ---------- Post added 18th Feb 2013 at 08:20 AM ----------

    I also wonder if romance is overrated.
    Isn't it a short lived phenomenon according to common thought?
    If my straight feelings are mostly romantic does this invalidate
    That side or at least call it into question as a more conditioned
    Part of me.

    This line is really upsetting me a bit but it is interesting.
     
  7. Omla

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    Definitions need not be precise to oneself... That only makes sense.

    But others do want to know "what we are"
    So they can act and plan accordingly.

    Therein lies the rub
     
  8. Omla

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    Ever hear "Americans don't solve their problems, they move beyond them".
     
  9. wrhla

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    I relate to most, if not all, of what I have read in your posts.

    One difference is that I am out as bi to my wife of 20 years.

    It's a confusing situation to find yourself in. As I said to a friend, I want to go to bed with a man but wake up next to a woman.
     
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    Yeah, it's sucks doesn't it!