Ok! I'll describe my thoughts and myself (just a few) I become gay whenever I see a handsome guy (It makes me insecure of them cause of their looks and the girls chasing them) I think I'm bisexual because I get sooo horny at both Gay or Straight porn I even get a lot of orgasms on both... I do fall in love on girls... And if I fall inlove on guys its just usually about their looks or its just because they make me horny (not totally inlove about their personality only the looks, that's what I mean) I already had 3 gf's at my age.... I broke up with them because I'm very confused... But they DO NOT KNOW about this... I never had a bf too >.< Another thing, I start to hate myself when I think I'm really gay I have one story that I think that it makes me gay I have a cousin who was 14 yrs old that time and also on that time I was like 9 years old I DON'T REALLY KNOW anything about the GAY and LESBIAN people and even PORN I don't even know that.... At that very moment my mean cousin taught me how to suck **** I got pleasured but when I reached my early teenager years which is 12 years old I started to have knowledge about those things... NOW everytime I have sex(oral sex) with the same sex... After that I feel so guilty... Now, I'm 14 I REALLY REALLY REALLY wanna change my life! Please somebody help me or give me some advice :icon_sad:
Firstly I am so sorry for to hear about what your cousin did to you,that is abuse. Maybe it would be a great thing to talk with someone you could trust,like a psychologist or a parent. As for your sexuality, just breathe you are only 14, go with a flow,don´ label yourself,and most importantly don´t hate yourself no matter what.(*hug*)
No bro, that story doesn't make you gay. That story makes you a victim of sexual molestation. You might want to talk to someone about what happened to you in order to get some closure and figure out how it continues to affect your sexuality and your self esteem (which it seems to have, honestly). But as for everything else, relax. You're only fourteen, you have plenty of time to figure it out. I didn't find the guy I fell in love with until college. You'll figure it all out!
If you get turned on by both men and women like you said you do then I see no reason why you wouldn't identify as bi. But to be honest, there's no real need to seek confirmation of your sexuality at this age. Just enjoy the things you like at the moment and see how things end up later in your life. I prefer to think of myself as bisexual at the moment as it's the most accurate description of what I like. ^_^ I'm sorry for the experience you ran into with your cousin, no one at that age deserves to be confused and manipulated like that. I agree with the people above me about consulting a parent or a nurse about this issue and hopefully they'll be able to support you. Good luck, either way.
I think you were sexually abused as well. At 14 its too early for you to know what your gender preference is. And its not like a light bulb going on. Its not an "event" its more like a process. Just keep doing what feels right for you and you will know eventually. There is no rush. I imagine at some point in time when you are older one gender or the other will settle in as your preference.
Hmm. I don't agree that you are too young to know if you're gay--many people know when they are younger than you are. But it is likely that some of your confusion about it is because of the abuse. You can't tell the difference between your natural feelings and things that are responses to the trauma from having been abused. Sexual abuse can make people confused regardless of what their sexual orientation would have been otherwise. I strongly think that you should see if you can get counseling to help you work through your feelings about the abuse. Does anyone know what happened?
I am sorry about the abuse. It is horrible. You should seek an ear to help you work trough the feelings and pains. I definitely think you can know earlier than 14 if you are gay or not I agree with Ianthe. I was younger than that when i knew I was different. I would think that some of your thoughts and feeling are impaired by the abuse. For now I would suggest council who is open to the gay questions. You need to find yourself and accept who you are without the abuse baggage. For now know that you are loved and accepted here. Hugs
