I'm attracted to guys (have been since for as long as I can remember), but I find sex boring and gross. The only thing I can think is "I can't wait for this to be over. Why am I doing this again?" I guess I could classify myself as a homoromantic asexual. Is that even possible? I mean, why else would I want sex until I'm actually having it? Then I'm as turned off as ever. Anyone wanna help me make sense of this, lol?
Actually, from my knowledge about asexuals, there are lots of different kinds of asexual orientations. I know of asexuals who just don't like sex, but like relationships! So this isn't completely unheard of at all! NO SEX?! - ASEXUALITY - YouTube Hope this helps!
Very, a part of human interaction is romantic interest and not all romantic interest leads to sexual desire as a climax of it. I could just not be for you.
No offense to your past partners, but maybe they just weren't that good. Is your attraction to guys a physical one? Do you enjoy looking at them? Or is it a purely emotional one where you just feel close to the guy? Because if you're physically attracted to guys and you "want sex until you're actually having it," as you put it, maybe the problem was on their end, not yours.
Perhaps you should look into the term demisexual. My understanding is its a person who does not experience sexual attraction based on physical attraction but can develop sexual attraction with the right person via a strong emotional connection. Now I don't have enough evidence based on your post to come to that sort of conclusion, but I just wanted to make sure you know that "x-sexual" and asexual are not the only options. There is a middle ground.
Yes this is very possible! You're not a freak trust me. It's been proven that romantic intent (Oooo he bought me flowers!) and sexual desire (Bow chika bow bow!!!) stem from different areas of the brain. Voila!
of course it is. may i direct you to my post here.... http://emptyclosets.com/forum/1360359-post4.html being asexual does not mean one doesn't have a sex dive or that one never desires sex. being asexual is about a lack of sexual attraction and nothing more. you will find that there are asexuals who are sex-repulsed, there are asexuals who enjoy sex as much as any sexual person and there are many (actually, i would say the majority) who are somewhere in between those two extremes. you really need to pay more attention to what kind of attraction you find yourself having towards someone. is it purely emotional? romantic? a mix of emotional/romantic and aesthetic? is sexual attraction actually present at all? do you find that a specific person can bring about the desire to have sex with them, or is it simply a desire to have sex that really isn't brought about by or directed at any specific person? the latter isn't sexual attraction at all, but rather is just a sexual urge or one's libido at work and nothing more. ---------- Post added 1st Mar 2013 at 10:15 PM ---------- what you described is aesthetic attraction, not sexual attraction. even asexuals can appreciate someone's looks.
Maybe you need to be "deeply" in love, really connected with the other person before you will actually enjoy it.....
You should look for love before sex, and maybe then you can be comfortable with someone to have sex ... Otherwise, you will need therapy!
My sexual attraction and relationship attraction are largely disconnected. While they overlap because they're both pretty broad categories XD I wouldn't say you need one to have the other.
