Hello there. Recently i've been trying to accept that i'm gay - with the help of a therapist. I'm still scared of 'coming out' and i can't really tell if this is just a phase. Anyway my issue is, a guy has asked me on a date, i think he's hot - but i still can't decide whether i'm going down the right route, or if i'm taking it too fast. I've only really been more accepting of my sexuality for a few weeks - and no one close to me knows about this. Should i wait, until i'm entirely sure? Or shall i go on the date and see what goes? Thanks
I'd say go for it! Even if it turns out to be not your thing, it'd be a good way to explore yourself and perhaps help you accept yourself more.
Sooo confused! Either it'll go really well, and be self affirming. Or it'll just be really weird for both of us
Go ahead and go out with him, but be honest about where you are with things. And keep it a low key kind of date.
Should i just tell him then? I've never actually met him before, only chatted a few times online - i think he's far more experienced than me!
I would go but don't rush into bed and expect everything to go flawlessly, thing's will be a bit awkward the first few times you meet guys so just don't get your hopes up too high so that you can get disappointed, epically if this is the first time your experimenting with guys. You've got to give it a chance, but If you really don't feel ready for anything then don't do it. There's always more guys, girls and time to work things out.
The only thing is, i still haven't 'come out' to anyone.. so it kinda feels like I'm trying to run before i can walk lol
I just think the point is that you should just do what you're comfortable with. If you feel like you want to date this guy, then do. Just do not allow yourself to do anything that you don't feel comfortable with. If he tries to kiss you, do not be afraid of rejecting him. It may help to tell him your position if you do decide to start seeing him; that way, he will know what your relationship can become, and if it's not the kind of thing you want, he'll call it quits there and then.
You said “The only thing is, i still haven't 'come out' to anyone.. so it kinda feels like I'm trying to run before i can walk lol” . I would say to you that you can’t come out until you know who you are, and going on this date may help you in understanding yourself. Sale Gay Guy