Hey ive made a couple other threads regarding sexuality and relationships, but not specific to this topic. And stop reading if you are grossed out easily! Ive come to realize i may be bi or gay, since i am attracted to both sexes, but atm mostly women. My problem is i get a different type of arousal for each sex. I get mentally aroused by looking at a woman and get hard when they touch me or say sexual things to me, or watching a girl in porn ect. Plus that pre come stuff. It feels awesome. But with men if i see a gay sexual image or a guy take his shirt off, or a guy touching me, i get an instantaneous tingle "down there" but do not get bigger like i do with women. It is frustrating because, when one of the above happens my mind and heart races and feel gross, and am not mentally aroused. It doesnt feel good. I watched gay porn, and other then an initial tingle and pre come i am not aroused and cannot get a hard on. Maybe im not letting myself enjoy it. So i can get a hard on from girls but only a tingle sensation or a moving sensation from guys, plus anxiety. Does that mean anything or does it not matter and should i just experiment more? Thanks, sorry for the gross stuff but the site is ver helpful!
I was like that I couple of years ago but I found that as I came to accept myself as gay I started to prefer gay porn (or watch straight porn for men). I would say that sometime gay porn can feel wrong but the more you watch the less guilty or wrong it feels. I don't know if it's similar for you. Personally I'm occasionally turn on by woman in porn but never in really life so from my experience your porn preference and your true sexuality don't necessary match up
I'd say you're sexually attracted to women and romantically attracted to men. Good luck trying to make that work.
Hahahaha thats awesome. Does that mean a tingle is romantic and a stiffy is sexual? Hahaha jkjk. I have been romantically attracted to many women, not yet men. Well see what happens.
The state of your penis will indicate something about arousal or not. However I think you should ask yourself what do you dream about? If it is about having sex with women then that could well indicate your preference or strongest inclination. The second question is what do you think about when you masturbate? Again your imagination and fantasy thinking may help you to decide. As a final point what is wrong with accepting yourself as bisexual? Please do not be in a hurry to label yourself, just enjoy experimenting with either sex and see which you enjoy most.
Right now you've got some data, but I don't see any harm in continuing. Just keep watching and thinking whatever you'd like, and see what happens. Lex
I think there might be something to this - especially that you've brought it up yourself. We're programmed / conditioned by society that straight is 'good' and gay is 'bad'. So while you might be physically wired to be attracted to both, that conditioning has resulted in you stifling the gay part and only letting the straight part really express itself. Working on acceptance is probably something that would help. As Lex said - just go with it for now. No need to arrive at a 'final answer' any time soon.
