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Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Niceguy16, Mar 13, 2013.

  1. Niceguy16

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    Ok, so ever since I could remember, probably grade primary, I have known that I was gay. I am 16 now, have come out to everyone including friends and family, but recently I have been finding that straight porn is a bit interesting, and I have noticed an increased attraction to women, only sexual, not emotional. I've never had a gay relationship before, only because the lack of gay guys who live near me. But I'm afraid of possibly being straight, I wouldn't be able to come out to everyone as being straight.
     
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    Welcome to EC! One of three things might be going on.

    Do you watch a lot of porn? If so, then it's possible that you've become somewhat desensitized to gay porn. It's old hat, and become a bit boring. So you look to spice it up with something different. It's not unusual to see heavy porn watches move into something more "intense" - fetishes and what not. And it's not unusual for straight guys to start watching gay porn. So you might try easing back on the porn to see if that might be what's going on.

    Secondly, age 16 is about the time when the sex drive seems to rev most completely out of control. I often joke that at that age, I got turned on by guys, girls, friends, strangers, groups, aliens, robots, weather vanes, and brick walls. That might be what's oing on with you as well.

    Thirdly, yes, you might be bisexual (or even straight). If so, you wouldn't be the first person who thought they were 100% gay and later discovered they weren't. If you're worried about not being sure, just hold off on dating for awhile. It'll all make sense eventually. And yes, you can ome out as bi or straight after coming out as gay. It's been done. :slight_smile:

    Lex
     
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    The same thing happened to me when I was fourteen. I watched some gay porn for fun and I started to get attracted to guys. Right now I don't watch much porn and I don't like guys as much as I did when I was fourteen. This is so confusing. :tears:
     
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    have you ever considered that you may be bi? and my gf is 100% lesbian but she still likes to watch straight porn. it is perfectly normal for your body to react that way. its a fantisy everyone has them it doesnt always mean anything
     
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    :slight_smile: don't let porn define your sexual orientation. Well try anyways. Like lilbit55 says everyone reacts in different ways to things. I have a lot of gay male friends who have watched straight porn and even find some women very attractive but they just don't have that...urge or charge when physically around women. Porn is weird :slight_smile: x
     
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    Porn is not a good basis for judgment in my opinion. When I do watch adult films it depends on my mood and the attractiveness of the "actors." If you are comfortable being gay, that's fine, and being bisexual is not a bad thing. I am equally attracted to men and women based on personality for love or looks for lust. Sounds trashy or slutty, but it's the truth. Live your life, don't focus on labels, take chances, experiment, and let your experiences guide you.