I don't know if this will help anyone but I'm gonna write it anyway.. A lot of people (well, all of us) are/were questioning ourselves. We want to know if there are any "easy" identifiers that we are one way or another. These are just a few things that helped me see that I am gay. - I am constantly drawn to gay/lesbian characters in movies, shows, books, etc. I always ship the gay couples. - In high school there was a rumor going around that I was a lesbian. For some reason, this really pleased me. I liked that people could look at me and see it, though I was definitely not out in high school. - My best friend kissed me one day just to get a rise out of some guys that were around. I couldn't understand why I liked it soo much and couldn't get it off my mind. - I have had boyfriends before but never felt like kissing them/being physical. I chalked it up to they were just bad kissers or what not, but every guy made me feel the same. They can't all be bad kissers haha. - I could picture myself coming home after a long day at work and snuggling up on the couch with a woman. I got a knot in my stomach if I tried to picture this happening with a man. I'm sure there are a few more that are escaping me right now. What are some incidents/feelings that you guys have felt were early on indicators of your sexuality?
I can relate to a lot of these, especially the gay shipping. I loved gay people way before I knew I was gay, ha. And the rumor as well - there's currently a rumor going around that my sister is a lesbian, and the second I heard it I felt jealous. I thought she was gonna get all the girls and I'd be left with all those sweaty boys. One clue was that I couldn't stand romance, especially from a girls perspective. I just couldn't relate to it. Then I started reading romance from a guy's perspective, and I liked it a lot... I told myself I just liked guys so much I wanted to see what it was like from their perspective. Nope! I asked my best friend if she thought she and I would make a good lesbian couple. She said yes, and that made me so happy. All through middle school and freshmen year I had to keep making up excuses for why I didn't like boys like other girls did. I was "too busy" or "I just hadn't met the guy yet." There was one sleepover where everyone but me and another girl bailed. I ended up sharing a bed with her and the whole time I lay there hypersensitive to every move she made (Ohmygosh she's coming closer! What do I do?) Needless to say I didn't sleep much that night. I've always been a little... "touchy" with my girl friends. I want to sit on their laps or hug them or just be close to them all the time. But if a boy comes along and touches me, even if it's just my gay friend joking around, I hate it. Just a few examples from my life.
Well, I'm still uncertain, but here goes nothing: • I agree with others who mention shipping! That's still a big deal to me, haha. • I remember when I was in first or second grade, a boy kissed my hand and drew a heart on it. It was really sweet, but I felt incredibly uncomfortable... despite the fact that I'd, ah, "experimented" with another girl years before that and it felt fine. • Growing up, girls and women would always talk about what a cute butt this or that guy had, or how nice his abs or arms were, and I just did not get it. • When I first discovered porn, I was Googling "boobs" and "lesbians". :lol: • I never really had crushes on boys when I was little. I'd look at a guy, think "I should have a crush on him", and that was that. It didn't exactly come naturally. I'm sure there are others, but that's all for now.
One more I forgot.. One time my boyfriend asked me what really turned me on and the first thing I thought of was "boobs." I couldn't even answer his question bc that's the only thing I could think of!
Pretty much all the reasons you said, especially the one about having boyfriends but not wanting to kiss them or be physical with them, and being able to picture coming home and snuggling with a woman! Also there was a rumor about me being a lesbian when I was in high school as well, and it never really bothered me but I was nowhere near as out as I am now.
whats gay shipping? real cute what some of you guys wrote... wish i could relate but unfortunatley nope i was the complete opposite in school... it was all about girls, party and girls... never looked at a guy and thought he was attractive... it wasnt until i was 20 i played gay chicken with my mates ...we were challenging the girls...and when my mate and i kissed... i didnt want to stop lol... and curiosity just built from there and now im 26 that was the only thing ive done with a guy... bit sad really...
- I can't relate to straight romance stories, but I can relate to lesbian romances. - I liked cuddling and holding hands with my boyfriend, but kissing him felt forced and unnatural. - I had crushes on girls in elementary school. When I was was about ten to twelve I thought that girls pretended to like boys to be popular. I pretended to like boys along with them. I stopped thinking that when I started to get turned on by girls at twelve. - I'm not sure if I'm a "proper" lesbian because I like guys once in a while. I know I don't like them as much as straight girls. My feelings for boys might just be a phase because I only started liking them at fourteen.
hmmm lets see - noticing girls rather than guys - crushing on female friends - wanting to have sex with female friends - wanting to cuddle with female friends - developing strong attraction to female friends - always wanting to kiss them - wanting to hug, hold, protect them - wanting to watch hot lesbian scenes in movies etc - rejecting every guy who asked me out in case I met the "right girl"- so i wouldnt have to explain the fact I liked women and the fact they were really barking up the wrong tree - uncomfortable around women- for the sake i may be attracted to one - thinking penises were funny looking weird sacks of whatever - lying to all my friends about the fact I havent met the right guy to settle down with - the thought of cuddling up to a man felt weird, uncomfortable and unnatural - being in a woman's arms was way better - getting very uncomfortable when people made vulgar, discriminative comments towards gay people - defending gay people -curious about girl on girl action -complementing women -going out of my way for women - holding doors open for women - saying sweet things to women - fantasizing about romantic getaways with my fave women - Always falling in love with a female friend - gravitating towards gays, lesbians and bi's- all the time- even when I was unsure of my sexuality. I would enjoy their company and naturally click - Not understanding hetero love or romance ---------- Post added 20th Mar 2013 at 05:04 AM ---------- oh by the way...my first sexual experience was with a man...I've had intense feelings for men...only short lived relationships and fleeting attractions...and vaginas aren't really a turn on...penis although they are weird looking, are much more of a turn on....yea work that one out... ---------- Post added 20th Mar 2013 at 05:08 AM ---------- I mean...I'm just so emotionally drawn to women...and physically sometimes, but don't find vages exciting really...hmmm...yet I think of settling down in the future with a man...hmmmm....confusion ---------- Post added 20th Mar 2013 at 05:10 AM ---------- but women....mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.........but their attitudes sometimes....eeeekkkkkkkkkkk...can be bitches.....just easier with a guy i think
