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Sometimes I'm in between feelings of I want her body and I WANT her body...?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by ecd123, Mar 19, 2013.

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  1. ecd123

    ecd123
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    Every lesbian tells me that I can tell if I am one for SURE if I notice girls and feel either "I want to be her" or "I want her" but sometimes I see attractive girls and think "Man, she's super hot I wish I had that nice of eyebrows" or something but I also think "buuuuuuut I'd totally try to get with her IRL"

    Thing is, I cannot figure out if I am bi or lesbian. Some days I feel so bi, but other days I think penises are GROSS.
    But some days I love to watch straight porn.

    I don't really know. I guess I'm just confused and trying to figure out how to figure myself out if that makes sense?

    Thanks for reading hahaha. :confused:
     
    #1 ecd123, Mar 19, 2013
  2. GiddyGreen

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    Well, you like women so there is that. xD
    Lots of straight/bi women I know think that penis is just a weird thing. Because, well, it is. You don't have to totally love penis to like men. But it helps if you do. What it comes down to though is how do you feel emotionally towards men? Do you think that you can fall in love with one? Develop an emotional connection? That goes for women too! Sexuality goes beyond physical attraction and desire.
     
    #2 GiddyGreen, Mar 19, 2013
  3. Ianthe

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    Don't worry about genitalia. Pay attention to who you actually develop feelings for.
     
    #3 Ianthe, Mar 19, 2013
  4. ecd123

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    I have had what I believed to be crushes on boys growing up, but it was always "oh he is so popular, i want to try to make him my boyfriend so i'll be popular." or "oh he's so cute, everyone else wants him so i want to try to get him."
    But I have never been able to develop an emotional connection. I never let myself realize this though, until I fell for my best girl friend halfway through my college career. We've been dating for 1 1/2 years and now that I have realized how I feel towards women I notice that I have never been able to feel the same towards men. I would always dismiss these feelings in grade school as feelings of just loving my best friend a lot, because it wasn't "normal" to have feelings for girls.
    I guess I'm just hesitant to choose between bi or lesbian and I wanted to see what others thought if I tried to explain myself.
    Do I sound like I could be bi? Or am I a lesbian?
     
    #4 ecd123, Mar 20, 2013
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    I think at this stage if I had to say, it would be lesbian but there isn't a hurry to label yourself. Only you know, deep inside, listen to your heart and gut feeling. Maybe you can tell us how you feel on days that you DO feel bisexual, do you feel sexually attracted to men or emotionally or both? What do you think?
     
    #5 Priiiide, Apr 18, 2013
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