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Is it new or is it true?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Musician, Mar 22, 2013.

  1. Musician

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    Here is a question on bisexuality:

    Yesterday, I came to terms that I am not straight. I never realized how strong my attractions to guys were. Yet, for years I got off to lesbian and straight porn. I never knew my friendships with guys were sexual. Never even thought about it or acted on it. Maybe thought about it on occasion, but always brushed it off as "everybody thinks about it". Meanwhile, I can name you in an 800 page novel many of the girls I got off to in my life, and like no guys.

    So, I realize how turned on I am by guys. They really turn me on. I feel very little spark for women now, including my long-term girlfriend, in spite of the fact that we still have great sex (not as great as with a man, maybe? Never tried it.) I'm saddened by this. Like death. Is this because this is a new attraction, so my brain is looking for something new? If I feed it through fantasy, or even polyamory with her permission, will my attraction to my girlfriend come back? As well as hopefully for women? When I was a teen, it was new too, and felt so fucking good, I think at least. Not sure anymore. In short, is this bisexuality really rearing its head, or is my gay side coming out for good?

    What has been the experience of bi/gay people involved in such a situation?
     
  2. LailaForbidden

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    If you have had sex and fantasized about women and enjoyed it, then it's probable that your bisexual. However, sexuality can be very fluid. When I first accepted my feelings for women, I didn't give men even a shadow of a thought. All the feelings I had kept pent up all those years were exploding, and I felt emotions I had never felt before. They were so strong that I thought I was gay for awhile. But my feelings for men eventually appeared again and were pretty strong. So, maybe you just need some time for everything to settle and calm down?
    Just my experiences :slight_smile:
     
  3. Musician

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    Hey Laila, that sounds awesome. I could go for that. I heard this experience from guys on a bi forum too. I am praying that's what's happening. I have a girlfriend whom I love, and I'm scared that I will lose my physical attraction to her, and women in general, though I was born and raised on female and lesbian porn. Loved it more than anything. Just being in a relationship is different than watching naked chicks, I guess.

    Guys here, have you had this experience? How has it been for you? I ask because I believe female sexuality is more fluid than mens'.