I know it's not a mental illness. I know we are born like this (apparently). I know reparative therapy doesn't work, and from what I understand, there is nothing out there to help us get over this. But after loving women apparently for so many years and dreaming of them sexually, only to now know I'm really gay, and being with my girlfriend whom I wanted to marry and have a family with, can anybody think of anything, like a pill or something I can take to be straight? I would do anything to have a family with her. I'm just concerned, because I want a family. I know gay dads can adopt, but it must be so traumatic for both the mother and baby in a surrogate pregnancy to be separated from the parent. I'd love my girlfriend to make my baby, but it won't be the same for the baby. And I know that kids up for adoption are already from bad homes (many of them), so we can make their world (and ours) a better place, but I wanted a baby with a woman, my beautiful, perfect, girlfriend.
Sorry pal. No "straight pill". If there were such a thing I'm sure a lot (but certainly not all) of us would be all over it. I know I would. Best of luck to you!
If you have been dreaming about them sexually for years and years, is it a possibility that you could be bisexual (like Kinsey 4 1/2?) I mean, sometimes the pendelum swings wildly dude. Anyway, i'm sorry you're having so much trouble! I hope you feel better soon. *hugs*
It sounds like you're Bi to me. o-O And well if that's the case and you love your girlfriend then stay with her, as long as you're happy with yourself and such. I'm sorry that there's no pill to make you straight, but give it some time and I'm sure you'll accept yourself more so. (*hug*)
I'm slightly leaning towards 'no', there are some aspects of being gay that I don't like, but at the same time, there's a lot of opportunities open to me because I am gay, I like being difference, because being "normal" is boring
I don't think I'm that bi. I really think I lean gay. I saw Julia Roberts on TV, and my first instinct was to reach into my pants, but it's not the same anymore. I know it won't do me good. That when I moved out of my parents' place last year, that things weren't heterosexual anymore. I would go for that pill though, if it ever came to be, just so I can have a family with my girlfriend, because it's not going to work between us. It's heartbreaking for both of us. We are both in such tears.
Nah, I think the majority of us would have taken it when we first realised we were gay, there's no pill, or cure. There's no illness. I think you just need time to accept yourself, allow yourself that time
Dude you are bi, I am gay and have no sexual desires involving women. If the thought of homosexual activity is so "wrong" to you then you don't have to act on it. Please don't try Reparative Therapy, its psudeopsychological nonsense. It will hurt your soul, you are practically taught to hate and then lock out a part of who you are, which generally will erupt out in the future. When I first noticed my sexuality I didn't want to be gay, for a 13 year old it was so scary, people were constantly making gay jokes, kids got beaten up for acting "gay" so if such a pill were to exist then I would have taken it back then. Now I have excepted and embraced my sexuality, and now I wouldn't cage it for the world
