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This is probably the most accurate thing I've ever read

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by piratealisonnn, Apr 8, 2013.

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  1. piratealisonnn

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    I just have to share because I saw this on Tumblr and it really hit home. I'm sure it will for most of you as well.

    “Because here’s the thing about realizing you’re into girls. Hardly anyone I know has ever said, “Am I gay?” in the same way they say, “Hey, do you know what the weather’s supposed to be like tomorrow?” Like they just need to figure out how to dress for the occasion. No, when most people ask, “Am I gay?” they ask it with the kind of urgency they would usually reserve for things like, “Do I strap this parachute to my back and jump from this free falling airplane or do I nose dive into the ocean and hope the sharks don’t eat my remains? SINK OR SWIM? LIVE OR DIE? QUENCH THE FIRE OR BURN ALIVE?” It feels so urgent, and the reason it feels so urgent is because you’re probably not just asking, “Hey, do I want to make out with other girls?”

    You’re also probably asking: What the hell are my parents going to say when I tell them I want to kiss other girls? And my friends and my co-workers and my classmates and everyone at my family reunion? And what’s that girl going to say when I tell her I want to kiss her? And how is my life ever going to be OK, and how can I go on being the same, and am I the same, and what else do I not know about what’s alive inside me? And who will still love me and who will start hating me, and is God involved, or the government maybe, and what if it’s only one girl I want to kiss, and how do I label myself and must I label myself, and what if I change my mind and, really, what if I do burn alive?”
    — Heather Hogan
     
    #1 piratealisonnn, Apr 8, 2013
  2. Femmeme

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    That's just about perfect.

    Thanks for sharing!
     
    #2 Femmeme, Apr 8, 2013
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    That is so damned accurate. And it's beautiful.
     
    #3 theMaverick, Apr 8, 2013
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    Wow, that's exactly how it feels. Thanks for posting!
     
    #4 leslly, Apr 8, 2013
  5. FallenAngel

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    Wow that's so powerful...thank you for sharing!! Awesome.
     
    #5 FallenAngel, Apr 8, 2013
  6. FeministFemme97

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    Wow. My soul stirred while reading this.
     
    #6 FeministFemme97, Apr 8, 2013
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    True story...
     
    #7 AquaRegia, Apr 8, 2013
  8. jeanie

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    Accurate
     
    #8 jeanie, Apr 8, 2013
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    Beautiful(tear)
     
    #9 mickey1101, Apr 8, 2013
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    Wow spot on
     
    #10 ilayis, Apr 8, 2013
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    Yes. This in a nutshell
     
    #11 Liz1968, Apr 8, 2013
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    Wow. Yeah, spot on. I definitely do not miss the questioning phase.
     
    #12 LailaForbidden, Apr 8, 2013
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    That was really awesome! Thanks for sharing!
     
    #13 TheAMan, Apr 8, 2013
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    Yeah. That.
     
    #14 Parsley, Apr 8, 2013
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    Yes that is exactly what its like... Apart from the god bits for me because I'm not religious and nor are my family or friends. For me it was almost a case of 'am I really into women? I mean really really? I mean I can't be. No, surely I'm not... But I am, how is this possible?', that sort of thing.
     
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    Yes! That's exactly how it was for me. A constant "No, this couldn't happen to me" and "Yeah, maybe it could" battle in my mind.
     
    #16 piratealisonnn, Apr 9, 2013
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    For me, it is the religion that got me. That last question "and, really, what if I do burn alive" has affected more than any other.

    Very powerful post! (if you replace the female pronouns with male pronouns, in my case XD)
     
    #17 remainnameless, Apr 9, 2013
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    So accurate!! Thanks for posting.
    The urgency and what everyone else would think got to me, still does a bit...
    There are this lesbian couple in our church... at first my mom thought they are sisters :lol: ...It's a fairly conservative church, yet open to think and debate about anything and big about not accepting interpretations but figuring it out for yourself, staying true to God's word and not to tradition, thus being gay and christian isn't such a big deal for me - thankfully!
     
    #18 kibeth, Apr 10, 2013
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    Yeah I could relate to some parts! :slight_smile:
     
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    Critical hit! (That's game talk for daaaaaamn....)
     
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