I need help...

For one, and at the risk of sounding a little rude, I don't think your parents can tell you whether you were born gay or not, that's just not how it works. There's no checklist before impregnating a woman. It's also usually during the teen years that people begin to realize if they're homosexual, and there's nothing wrong with that.

As far as your case in particular, you're still fairly young, so there's no need to rush to find an answer. You've had some unpleasant experiences, and that seems to put a lot of pressure and stress on you which is perfectly understandable. If you haven't done so already, I'd suggest you try and get over those bad experiences first to at least take some weight off your shoulders. If it's too difficult on your own, therapy could be a solution. Once that's done, then you can start tackling the issue of your sexual orientation. Tackling the two at once could just cause more confusion and stress.

On homosexuality now. It's not unusual for people to enter a heterosexual relationship before finding out that they might be gay. You don't need to fall in love with a person of the same-sex to show signs of homosexuality, and there's no age limit for that either as you can see from this forum, there are people of all ages who are coming out at different point in their lives. It's also possible for gay couples to adopt (depending on your country) so there's always that option who gay couples who wishes to form a family.

You're still young, don't rush it. Experiment if you can, and take some time to learn more about yourself, about your feelings, about homosexuality, etc. There are a lot of resources available on the internet. One last thing to remember, homosexuality is not wrong, don't let anyone lead you into believing that it's a sin or any of that vitriol.

 

The guilt is not unusual, it usually takes some time before people are "ok" with themselves about it, because of the whole confusion surrounding their sexuality.

It's a shame that your mother feels this way, and it's perfectly understandable that you would not want to risk facing those consequences at least until you're old enough to move away. I hope you'll be able to find some support elsewhere to help you get through this.

 

You say you don't want a relationship with guys want a family etc. I felt the same way... just realise you can be happy EVEN HAPPIER with men if you pick a woman because it's what yoir parents want you're not gonna be happy. Just realise you can have a happy life with men too. You can adopt try souregacy there are plenty of ways to have a kid and you'll enjoy the experience being with someone who you are actually attracted to. Just go with what comes for you naturally.

 

Being gay doesn't mean that you like or are interested in the things that women are interested in (well, other than men I suppose). There are gay guys here who like to hunt, fish, play sports, go to the shoot range, get dirty working on their truck, etc. There are also guys here aren't interested in any of those things or only some of those things. Some guys here are closer to the stereotype than others, whether completely or in some ways.

That said, you should realize that ideas about 'what men like' and 'what women like' are products of culture, not nature. I grew up in Alaska and many of the women I knew loved to hunt, could take a car engine apart and put it back together for fun, flew planes, etc. And they were all quite straight.

Most ideas of what gay men like or don't like are just stereotypes.

You can like or not like whatever you want and still be gay or bi.

Todd :smilewave

 

Yeah sorry didn't see that part. Being gay means you like guys only. It doesn't define how you act... it doesn't make you a crossdresser and you dont have to wana be a woman...