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How to Explore Safely?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Mister Bucket, Apr 22, 2013.

  1. Mister Bucket

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    I'm in my mid-20s and have recently started noticing an attraction to men (still attracted to women, too). I've tried watching gay porn and have been surprised at how much I like it. I don't really care about labeling my sexuality, and right now I just want to explore, but how can I do that safely? I'm kind of terrified of the Craigslist scene, and I've never really liked bars/clubs, so I don't think the gay bar route would be for me. Any thoughts?
     
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    That app is even worse than Craigslist. Go meet people at some kind of gay meetup.
     
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    I'm not a fan of the club/bar route either, but we'll never know until we try right? There could be loads of available men there. If you're looking for a date, then try gay dating websites perhaps?
     
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    Are you just looking for a hookup to experience what it's like to have sex with a guy, or are you thinking of exploring a relationship with a guy?

    The reason I ask is... where you go looking for one is completely different than the other.

    I'd encourage you also to give some thought before answering. If it's all new to you, it can be really easy to get attached super quickly, so just be clear that if you go the hookup route, you may feel a really strong bond to the person you hook up with... and most likely, that feeling won't be reciprocated, as people into hookups are generally not interested in relationships (or can't sustain them if they attempt to do so.)

    I'm not trying to discourage you, just encouraging you to think through what you're after before going into it.

    Also... and this is probably obvious... but anyone into hookups is likely to be pretty promiscuous (though a lot of them will lie, particularly if they think they've found "fresh meat") and so you should have concerns about STIs. Always, always, always use condoms for anal sex, and be aware that while the risk of HIV transmission orally appears to be fairly low, it can be easy to get gonorrhea, syphillis, or chlamydia through oral-genital contact.

    Not trying to be a downer, just pointing out things that, unfortunately, we have to think about. :slight_smile:
     
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    I have always been, and will always be, a condom user, but thanks for the reminders! I've never really been into random hookups, but I'm not sure how else to satisfy the curiosity I feel about sex with another guy. I really just want to find out if I enjoy being with another man. I'm trying to work out the best way of figuring that out.