Is sexual attraction usually something you just know? Do you feel just feel drawn to a person? Want to be around them etc? ---------- Post added 30th Apr 2013 at 01:52 PM ---------- I'm curious because there are days where I question whether I have attraction to men but with women I feel so certain without even thinking about it!
It's a strange thing. I find women very attractive and feel a certain erotic charge around some. Less so with men. And that's what confused me for a long, long time: How could I be gay if I was attracted to women more than men? I wish I had an easy explanation, but I don't and so it has taken me forever to confront the fact that I'm gay. I just finally realized that my attraction to women wasn't an expression of my true sexuality. To be fair to myself, I am almost certainly bi, but I find that by simply identifying as gay and accepting that has made everything so much easier. I don't have to keep explaining things to myself. Sexual desire is a mystery and trying to figure it all out is probably a fool's errand. Just go with the tingly feeling you get around someone. That's probably the best guide.
I'm married to one. Been together 30 years. Before that I had several girlfriends. I enjoyed straight sex. But I also wanted to have sex with men. Now I want to have sex almost exclusively with men. So I wonder about whether that was always true and I was just too repressed, or if my sexual orientation has changed. Feel free to read some of my initial posts where I go into more detail about all this.
Yeah thanks, will do. Sexuality is just so fascinating and complex. I love hearing different stories!
I kinda base my attraction on how they look. Guys look nice and all (or some, at least) but I very rarely say that they look "Hot" where as with girls, I feel an attraction, and attraction is very much the right word to use, as sometimes I have to force myself to look away. No one wants to be caught looking at someone else's boobs XD However, whether or not it is SEXUAL attraction, I honestly have no idea. The most of an urge I've had is the urge to kiss (and that was a very powerful urge) But then again, I have had no experience with girls.. At all
