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About being born,and turning to adult.

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by GayAndHappylol, Apr 30, 2013.

  1. GayAndHappylol

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    Just a question out of curiosity.
    They say that we born gay right?If so,why they also say that we cannot be sure about our sexual orientation if our age is below 17?
     
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    I was actually thinking about this myself today.

    Maybe, its because of society not allowing for it, saying about "man and woman" from a very early age, and it just takes a while to break free from that. Also, I guess your sexuality (even if you are straight) is still developing? I mean you dont really see a 10 year old watching porn or fantasizing...
     
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    Yeah that could fit too!Well ive always been gay but i had some tests lol and they said dont do this test if youre 16 or something,tests about sexual orientation and stuff(because i love these tests and any other test).So yeah maybe when we are 15 we are not sure of what we like or something?Any way you see it,its an interesting question that i would really like to know the answer.
     
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    Seems like a very scientific and complicated question
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    XD loved the picture
     
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    Homosexuality from birth is relatively "recent", with a few (very strong and credible) studies currently supporting the idea. Despite that homosexuality is seemingly rooted in birth, there's no way to tell whether a child is homosexual or not until his sexuality begins to develop (commonly beginning between the ages of 11-13 years old), and even then, it's subject to certain variation and 'standards' induced by the societal "norm". Heterosexuality is everywhere you look, your parents are heterosexuals, your friends are hetero, your dentist is hetero, etc. As a result, it's not unusual for teenagers between the ages of 11 to 16 years old (and actually higher than that) to experience a certain level of confusion, denial, curiosity, fluidity, etc. in regards to their sexual orientation (many bisexuals around those ages turning gay later on in life for example). These could hamper the results of any tests conducted and give the patient a result that may not represent the reality.

    Suffice to say, there's a lot to take into account and putting an age restriction seems like a "valid" reason, provided of course that the rationale behind this limitation is motivated by scientific methodology and not some preconceived opinions about homosexuality and not wanting teenagers to find out they are gay (which is a possibility in more conservative areas).
     
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    Oh my god :eek: Thank you so much,thats the answer ive been looking for (*hug*)
     
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    One issue I've heard cited: teenagers have hormones out of control. The hormones can do strange things. Maybe even cause a straight person to have a crush on another member of the same sex. Then, on top of that, it's not unheard of for at least guys to experiment/fool around with each other. Possibly two boys masturbating together during a sleepover. Or even an entire sports team masturbating together in the shower. Part of this is fueled by hormones. Also, particularly for younger teenage guys, there is relatively easy availability of other guys. At that age, getting even a quick kiss from a girl could be difficult.

    Not sure how true this is, but I heard it from someone whose judgment I respect. And it sounds possible.

    Of course, it is possible that someone can know, for certain, at a young age. Many gay men report that. I know I had same sex attraction as early as 12, nearly 13. I didn't understand it then, but I certainly had strong physical interest in other boys.
     
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    No problem. This is just my general assumption though, I've never seen a test on sexual orientation before (besides Kinsey's) so I'm unfamiliar with the content or methodology behind them.
     
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    I know,it was a question to satisfy my curiosity :slight_smile: What are you on Kinseys scale by the way?
     
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    Same as you, exclusive homosexual (6).
     
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