I am having a really hard time determining if I am actually gay or if it is some kind of phase. I am 15 and for about a year, girls pretty much haven't done anything for me, lesbian porn, nada... I've tried everything to test it out. The last couple of months have been the worst. I have been having dreams about one of my best friends in a sexual way. When I look at any of my guy friends, its more of a sexual way now, and its scaring me. I have never been a homophobe, but I desperately don't want to be gay. I don't want to have to face people with it, I hear how people talk about someone when their gay. I am not sure what to do? Am I gay? If I am, how do I confront it?
It appears you're in the early stages of developing same sex attraction, which would mean you could turn out bisexual or gay. I wouldn't rush to label things yet. See if this pattern continues through the next several years. By the time you're 18-19 and find yourself only sexually attracted to guys and not girls, then I think it would be appropriate to admit to yourself that you are most likely gay. If at 18 you find yourself sexually attracted to both, then perhaps bi would be a good label. I honestly don't see you being completely straight. Your feelings for girls may return, but I don't think your feelings for guys will completely disappear.
