I am almost certain that I like boys and girls. But lately I've been thinking that maybe it's just a romantic, close- cuddly kind of way: I am a virgin and have never had any kind of sexual contact with anyone, apart from kissing someone once. I am in no way attracted/turned on by male or female genitalia, sometimes I think I'm almost grossed out by the thought or sight of it. This is why I never watch porn. Maybe it's because I am kind of young, 15 almost 16, or is it something deeper than that? (excuse the pun... :lol: ) I have absolutely no sex drive, and it seems like all my friends ever talk about is sex. :bang: Any responses would be helpful (*hug*)
Well, judging from the reaction I got in grade 10 when I told my friends I'd never had a crush on anyone, being asexual is not typical at your age. There do seem to be a few people who are 'late developers', though. Or demisexual and haven't met the right person yet.
I am an 18 year old who had a similar situation; I have had an asexual period from 15-17, but now I'm heterosexual and biromantic; for now, the best advice I can give you, is experiment, if you're comfortable, just to confirm it, should you feel the need to; either way, the key is being happy with who you are- don't submit to sexual culture. I have grown up in a town which has a very high teen pregnancy rate, and everyone is so obsessed with sex. My belief is "go with the flow" and I'm a virgin- I am not overall confident in my orientation, but I have opened myself to possibilities of all sorts. :icon_bigg
For me I was young and I was attracted to guys. My first tv crush was Bo Duke off of the Dukes of Hazzard. Back then porn was rare and I was like 15 or 16 when I saw porn for the first time. I was like 12 when I started having sex and I loved it and wanted it. So by 15 I got it every day. I am 40 now and still want playtime twice a day minimum. I have always had a healthy sex drive. So you do sound asexual to me. Maybe you are a late bloomer? June
I am only 13 and I am most certain that I am bisexual. It is unlikely that you will become straight or change orientation and how you feel about both genders in the future, especially because you are 15, turning 16. I am almost 100% sure that I will never become straight when I am older. So, it probably isn't just because you are young, and probably isn't just a phase of your life that you are going through. And you will most probably be bisexual for ever. Sorry if you would rather be straight, but it's just the ways it is.
I've never had sexual feelings for anyone before, and I don't find people sexually attractive. It's more romantic feelings that are initiative for me to develop a liking for somebody. I don't watch porn either, it does nothing for me (and I find it to be kind of repulsive). I've also had sex and it did nothing for me. I'd compare it to a blank sheet of paper. I don't believe in the whole 'late bloomer' concept, but what you're describing sounds similar to my own thoughts, it's a high probability. Do you happen to find people sexually attractive, by any means? Your answer to that solves your questioning, I'd reckon.
This was pretty much the same thing I've been thinking. I haven't had any interest in sex at all, and I can't imagine getting close to someone sexually.. it just seems so repulsive. I wondered if it was the same thing that you're wondering, if it's just a thing about being young and not having that experience, or is it really just not being interested. As far as I'm concerned, I don't want sex or anything like that, and I just don't put a label on it. I don't think you have to put a label on it and identify as asexual, saying that you're not interested in sexual contact has the same effect. It's just like someone gay saying that they like the same sex. Gay is just the label, liking the same sex is the action, just like the label asexual is like saying you don't want to have any sexual contact. I don't think you have to be so focused on finding the correct label for it, just state what you feel. I understand what you feel like though, because I'm just not interested in sex at all, or anything like that, and all my friends are and it makes me feel very different, but I know exactly what I'm looking for, and it's not sexual contact.
corrected that for you. OP, my only advice to you is to take your age out of the equation and just go with what feels right to you. whether you are 16 or 20, there will always be people telling you that you're just a "late bloomer" or that you're just "too young" to really know what you want. listen to your heart and your body and go with what you feel to be best for you, whether that involves adopting a label or just going with the flow of things and avoiding labels for now. no one else can ever possibly know your sexuality better than you. ignore anyone who even suggests that they do. besides, a label is just a word and like any other word you can change it in the future if you feel the need to. don't feel like once you label yourself anything that you're stuck with it. just my thoughts on the matter....
