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I don't want to be bisexual

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by ChromeNerd, May 10, 2013.

  1. ChromeNerd

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    I'm not sure what my exact sexuality is. When I was fourteen and under I was not attracted to guys. I wanted to like guys, but I just didn't. I even tried to force myself to have crushes on guys. I fooled a few people, but I still doubted whether I really liked them. When I was fourteen I acknowledged and accepted my attraction to girls. As I was getting ready to come out as gay I encountered some gay porn on the internet. To my surprise I got turned on. After that I started to notice attractive guys in the real world without forcing myself like I did before. I started to get attracted to guys a lot. After I stopped watching gay porn my attraction to guys calmed down. Recently I got a crush on a male teacher. It is pretty confusing for me. With girls I usually get crushes on girls my age. This teacher is the only guy I've had a crush on. Is it possible for gay porn to change your sexual orientation or am I just super confused? Am I a bisexual in denial?
     
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    I think you should give yourself time to figure things out. Your sexual orientation describes whom you have an enduring desire for; the same sex, opposite, both etc. But I'm sure you already know that. When I first came out, I came out as bisexual. However, the label did not feel right, so I gave myself time to figure things out. I eventually did, after years of denial. So, please take your time, there's no need to rush to label yourself. And to answer your question, no, I not believe that watching gay porn can change your attractions. I watch heterosexual porn and yeah, I'm still a lesbian. I've learned that watching porn to figure out your sexual orientation is ill advised. So, try to stay away from it for a while. I've also learned that watching any form of sexual display may arouse anyone in disregard to orientation.
     
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    I had a different experience, the first time I watched gay porn It completely turned me off men but then I ended up being fascinated with it haha. I wouldn't judge your sexuality from what porn makes you feel hot, just imagine all the crazy stuff out there!