Hey!!! As suggested im in dire need of some help regarding my sexuality basically heres my story..... I am really confused now and have been for around 8 years now (since I was about 13). It started off small with doubts about my sexuality, thinking maybe I did kinda like guys. (Let me point out that I definitely do like girls, always have). Gradually however these feelings have grown and got stronger and more frquent, starting to see guys I found attractive, starting to think about doing sexual things with guys, to eventually fantasizing ad masterbating to these thoughts etc. At first I was repulsed by all this but as its become more an more common I have started to feel less like this and tbh even enjoy it a little bit. Now I have to admit I am really turned on by the tought of men. As well as this I had always been adamant that if it was anything it was only and attraction/sexual thing and I could never be gay etc as I couldn't be involved in a relationship with a man but now (7/8 years of confusion in) I am starting to find this idea less off putting. I am really confused about all of this so here are some questions: What am I in terms of orientation?? How do I make sense of all this and really be sure of what I am?? What do I do now??
Hi there, Welcome to EC! You sound bisexual to me. You indicate you still get into women but have a growing attraction to men. Also you indicate that this has been developing naturally for some time and is part of your fantasy life rather than just being driven by porn, which is a common situation for a lot of guys who start questioning. Porn is not a good indicator btw. As far as making sense of it and being sure -if you're fantasizing about sex with guys and feeling attracted to guys you see and such but also still doing the same with women that's a pretty strong indicator. I suppose the next step would be finding a guy you like and who likes you back and is willing to help you explore taking things beyond the level of fantasy. Liking men and women both is just a natural part of you like your hair color and such if that helps make sense of it. As far as next steps, please keep posting to EC. There are lots of folks here who are happy to offer support and suggestions. You might also see if there are any LGBT support groups or community centers in your area or maybe a gay friendly church if you are of a religious or spiritual frame of mind. Hope this helps, Todd
Hey thanks for replying! Yea tbh it is definitely a part of my fantasy life, a BIG part if im honest. In fact the more I think about it and porn I would say that nowadays im more into girls when I watch porn but more into guys when I fantasise. When im out and checking people out etc its way more girls, although th last year or so I have def started to notice more guys but its still about 85/90% girls im attracted to. I just want to be able to make sense of it and be sure for myself what I am. If I can accept it I think I can maybe think about going on from there. I don't really want to let anyone know about this while im really unsure so going to support groups etc isn't really an option. That's why I would love people on this to respond and give me advice, Also just thnk chatting with people like on here would be nice Thanks
Hi there ive been there! believe me i started questioning myself when i was 13 too! and i know its not easy. it took 6 years for me to know and accept myself. Theres a lot of people in this forum who has more knowledge than me that will support and help you. good luck
Hello, well I would think you are Bisexual. you find both sex attractive but mainly see yourself with a women. you can only see yourself with a women because society burned the image of a girl and boy in a relationship, not a boy and a boy/girl and girl. So yes, in my opinion, you are bisexual. What to do next? -Well you accept yourself for who you are, and hope that everyone you know will except you too. Do experiment with your emotions; finding yourself is very important to identifying who you are. Good Luck.
Hey guys! Thanks for the responses! I see what you mean, recently I have started to consider that I may not be straight and that's a big step....on the other hand accepting it is much more complex! How exactly do I try to do this?? :S Also in terms of the societal issues, I can see whay that may be the case but how do you overcome something that is so engrained?? I think that may be one of my biggest problems!!! Thanks for the opinions! Im starting to think I may have to just admit, to myself at least for now, that I probably am gay or more likely bisexual!!!
