I'm 20 in a frat at a big school and "straight acting" (play sports, hate fashion, etc). I was always very bicurious growing up, and after coming to college i started dating this guy in secret and very quickly came to the conclusion that i was gay. It was immeditatly infinitely more gratifying than any relationship I had been in with a woman. Unfortunately, we're broken up now because I'm closeted. Since breaking up, I haven't hooked up with any other guys but I have hooked up with a girls. For some reason, I had assumed that since I was attracted to guys that meant I was gay. I never even considered the option that I was bisexual. But every time that I did, I was surprised by how much enjoyed the experiences. I've noticed that my attraction to women is continually growing stronger ever since realizing that I was in fact attracted to women, Recently, I find myself thinking about women much more often than men when i masturbate, and my orgasms have been more intense since switching back. So...I guess I'm not gay? Thinking back on it, I realized that most of my feelings for my ex-boyfriend were very romantic and passionate...but less sexual than when with women. When I miss my boyfriend (which I do quite a bit since we ended due to external forces rather than a falling out), I miss HIM, and spending time with HIM, and doing cute things with HIM. I don't miss the physical aspect of the sex as much, but just the fact that it was so intimate and nice with HIM. Whereas I've never had that strong romantic connection with a woman, where its more physical/sensual/visual. I like men for companionship, women for sex. Should I sacrifice the better sex for the better companionship? Or should I wait it out for a woman who finally is able to make me feel a romantic connection? (My previous girlfriends just seemed like hot friends who I could have sex with...none of the crazy chemicals and stuff haha)
Obviouspy bi if you're into both..but obvioisly you may be more sexually attracted to women while being more romantically attracted to men?
The whole romantic aspect towards males in called homo-romantic I believe. A homo-romantic is a person who is romantically attracted to a member of the same sex or gender. You can be/are also heterosexual minus the romance part. I think that has a special name but I can't remember. (Too many terms for this stuff) I may be right. I may be wrong. But, hey, this is only advice. I hope I helped you out a little. Good luck on figuring it out!
Guess you could be homoromantic bisexual. I don't think you should "sacrifice" one for the other. I think you should just go with what makes you the happiest.
Stick it out for a woman. Are you actually "sexually attracted" to men? From your description, you sound straight or possibly borderline bi. Your relationship with a guy could be dubbed a "bromance." You can be straight and enjoy the company of other men. Society is unfortunately harsh towards male-male affection, even if it's not necessarily sexual. You definitely don't sound gay. Your description is almost, but not quite, the polar opposite of gay.
