Alright, I still kind of question myself a little bit but I want my worries to be put to rest, I want to know if constant questioning of ones sexuality (like a day to day basis) be a sign of latent homosexuality or bisexuality and maybe even asexuality or just a sign of a neurotic person? May I please know? :bang:
Hey I'm in the same situation and I think if your like me then you have bad ocd. Literally everyday i go over this, like 24/7, and cant stop no matter when i think im gay or straight. In fact im willing to bet im a straight demisexual guy who is coming to terms with his asexuality. I think i may have hocd (which you may want to search up) because no matter how much my mind tries to fight i know that guys cant do it for me and i need to accept it. Hope this helps
I heard of the OCD you are referring to, and heard many differentiating opinions on it myself. Some on this site say it does not exist and some say it does. I would not be surprised if it does exist though, most people who say it doesn't mostly say it is caused by some religious folk trying to keep people hetero. However into research, there seems to be homosexual people who acknowledge it's existence and and do a good differentiation on it, the only issue is the questions and skepticism behind it all.
Hey flyalone you know how i learned about hocd when asking what was going on in yahoo chat? It was because of a lesbian who was afraid she was straight and said she woke up every morning fearing she was attracted to guys even though she knew she was a lesbian. So tell me why the heck she would be afraid of being straight? Yea im pretty sure it exists because I have also had other fearful sexual obessions that i know arent true but my mind plays tricks on me. The other bad 1 i had was pocd (pedo) and i became scared and constantly questioned myself but got over that when my neice wanted a kiss on the lips goodbye and after that i knew i could never harm a child though the doubt still lingers which is what ocd does. Ask yourself what bothers you the most about being gay? Ill explain where im going with this after you answer.
I fear because I don't want my life to change as much as it already has, I have feelings for this woman I met online and I don't want them to be in vein, when I have the occasional intrusive thoughts, they do not turn me on the slightest bit nor do they excite or interest me. When I think about women I do get a huge boner and have masturbated to those thoughts of having sex with women. When it comes to this woman I wish to cuddle with her, hug her, love her, kiss her, and %^&* her, and lastly protect her in anyway I can, she makes me feel like a man basically. (!) Oh my, this got me excited down there just thinking & typing about it! :lol: Anyways, I don't have any desire to be with another man, I just have these intrusive thoughts and questions towards my sexuality, I never found sex to be Omni-important as much as other people have from what I can tell, but when it comes to men, I just can't get it up no matter what. I read something somewhere that if you have thoughts of the same sex intrusive or not on a daily basis, it's a sign of something and it constantly makes me question my past if I am gay, bi, straight, or asex. :icon_redf Tell me, is this true or not? And if so, what are these feelings?
Your sir answered exactly like i hoped you would. Your not gay there champ virtually every gay person who hides it or doesnt realize fear 1 thing, what others think of them. When the same thing happened to me i hardly ever thought about what others think of me my biggest fear was that my 23years have been a lie and i just cant accept that and why would i? Thats my entire life damn it! Im also like you with not being able to get it up (i just did a post called afraid to admit im straight) ive tried probabaly 100s of times and in that time i have gotten it up maybe once or twice. You know how many times ive gotten it up to thoughts about women? Almost every freakin time! Ive even gone to the next step and tried gay porn and have watched it bunch of times and from the dozens of times ive tried to get aroused i have only gotten 2 or 3 times. Hell now i find it boring and funny swear to god! Idk why the thoughts are happening to ya, maybe you do have hocd and if you feel you do check out ways to beat it. I can give help if you need it but its a battle you need to be ready for on your own (or therapist). Hell talking to you is boosting my own confidence again and gotta say im looking forward to tmorrow! :eusa_danc
Look, okay until HOCD is officially classified as an OCD, Its not real to me Just because fearing or having OCD of being straight or gay doesn't mean, there is such thing as HOCD. OCD is OCD. You can't specify it as HOCD. it's just part of OCD.
Well, one doesn't begin questioning their own sexuality for no reason at all, so something is definitely up. You're looking for closure. Could you explain these 'intrusive thoughts', when they started, and how you feel towards them?
They started a month ago. I can't really explain these thoughts in good detail as they come and go real quickly like, they are glimpses of sometimes myself and sometimes two random people that switch between people I do know, and they are usually doing something gay. I never had thoughts like this until like a month ago when I started to question why I am single. I asked myself constantly, why did I never have the courage to go up and talk to my crushes back in Jr. High and High School. The thought then occurred that maybe I'm not meant to be in love with a woman, and that maybe all those years of people insulting me and bullying me and calling me gay were actually true! I never did have intentions of being with another man at all, not ever and still no intention today, I then started questioning my feelings towards my current crush on this woman I met on the internet and wondered if I really enjoyed masturbating to all those straight and lesbian porno vids and pictures I saw on T.V. and internet. I recently saw my first gay porno vid on the internet a week ago and did not get turned on by it at all, I still question because I heard different variations to the whole "The Answer is in the Porn" sort of thing on this site. I feel intruded and feared by these thoughts and also annoyed because they interfere with my life, their basically unwanted, I even took time to see if I was attracted to these thoughts and no boner or erection came up, but more of a "this is not me" feeling. I cannot describe how negative I feel about these thoughts, I just want them to calm down and focus on my life. I was always more of an emotional person than a sexual, which is why I went for an Asexual label. I told my mom and she said I fit into the more Bi-Curious label if anything, and I don't want to necessarily go to therapy because I have met some bad therapists in the past that misconstrued what I say.
This is interesting to me because I also am obsessed with my sexual orientation. I have (almost) always been in heterosexual relationships and situations and have been fairly satisfied. My boyfriend turns me on and I love him and everything feels right EXCEPT that I am also genuinely sexually attracted to women. Just seeing women in public or anywhere ignites this powerful feeling of arousal and anxiety. I prefer lesbian porn, and lately it has been more difficult to... achieve satisfaction with my boyfriend. However, my main fear is also a lifestyle change, having to leave my boyfriend, cheating him with my thoughts etc. I have told friends and family I might be a lesbian because I don't want to be a liar. Them knowing in itself is not my fear! I have never wanted to be in a relationship with a woman but I do feel like I could be more gratified sexually if I could overcome this anxiety. I also have always suffered from some form of anxiety: sometimes my friends are plotting against me, and another time I became convinced I was born a man and everyone was lying to me. It is all very confusing. I just want to enjoy what I have without questioning every thought and feeling. I feel like biologically I am a lesbian or at least Flexible but something INTERNAL cannot accept that. Any insight? Am I in extreme denial? Do I have to act on my sexual urges even though... I don't really want to? Familiar anyone?
Well, your case makes you sound like a case of coming to terms of ones sexuality; meaning your bisexual, or it could be your depressed. When ever I am sad, I can never get it up, as for me, I am more turned off by them thoughts I have.
Unkown 17050: It does seem like you are suffering with a lot of anxiety over things that ultimately (and I think you can realize), are not that important, but may be more nuanced and open to suggestion than you can realize. I know this too, but am also feeling paralyzed by possibilities. It is hard to go forth with confidence in your life (or any pursuit) if you cannot trust yourself and have chronic doubt. I feel for you because it is what I go through (especially when I am in a successful relationship)! It can be exhausting, but I think part of the process for me is to eliminate anxiety associated with ANY outcome. Easier said than done, especially when I so long to commit fully to my boyfriend! Best of luck friend!
Yeah, it's not a separate condition, just one symptom of OCD. But it is possible to be completely straight and obsessively worry about your sexuality. Since it's a symptom of OCD, it generally occurs along with other obsessions and/or compulsions, such as handwashing, counting, symmetry obsessions or similar issues.
I do have a slight obsession with symmetry and get disgusted with people who don't wash their hands, but not to the extent of OCD, but I do have obsessions with other things however, would an addictive awe towards Comic Books, Sci-fi, Fantasy, Video Games, and other things nerdy be considered a part of that? I do take them very obsessively seriously and to the point where people like OCD go to. So does that count? Also I do move around from one thing for an extended amount of time and then move on to something else.
It depends. Are they happy obsessions, or anxious obsessions? Happy obsessions are ones where the primary motivation for doing the thing is that you enjoy it. This kind of obsession has nothing to do with OCD. It can be a characteristic of autism, or it can just occur by itself. (And it's mostly a good thing, unless following your obsession interferes with things you need to do.) Anxious obsessions are obsessions where you don't really enjoy doing the thing, but not doing it makes you feel really anxious, and you can't let go of the anxiety until you've done the thing you're obsessed with. That's the kind of obsession that is typical of OCD.
Sometimes, when it comes to researching paranormal stuff and other creepy stuff I like, it can be a very anxious feeling I don't like. As for things related to say; Star Trek, I do enjoy, and yes I do suffer from Asperger Syndrome.
