Hi everyone, I just joined this forum. General background info about me, I recently turned 18, I'm a guy, started uni earlier this year, I live in Australia and my parents are from Sri Lanka. I've lived in Australia my whole life. I've never had a girlfriend or even kissed a girl on the lips. I've had friends that are girls, but I've never been in a romantic relationship with a girl. But when I imagine my future and where I see myself, I always imagine myself with a wife and children. That said, I don't think I'm attracted to girls in the same way other guys my age are. I've never 'drooled over' a girl or been immobilised by a girl's beauty before. Then again, I've never really had any close friendships where I can talk about relationships, sexuality, who's hot/who's not, etc so I'm not sure if that comes into play here. Since I was around 14 though I've always admired the male body and I often find myself more drawn towards male beauty than female beauty. However, the thought of having sex with another man turns me off. Again though, I've never been in a relationship with a guy, or made out with a guy or anything like that. So I don't really know where I stand. There are times when I feel that I'm gay, or at the very least bi, and there are other times that I feel that I'm definitely straight, but just haven't had the chance to realise it since I've never been in a relationship before. So I don't know what to do. Should I talk to someone just to try and work out how I feel? And if so how would I go about doing that? Cheers.
You may possibly be "asexual" if you are not feeling much sexual desire to anyone or simply a low sex drive. I am not an expert on asexuality, but I think the best advice is to definitely give it time and see how you feel. Do you have any fears or anxiety of having sex? Or does it simply not interest you?
Thanks for your reply cm81990. I can't imagine myself having sex with a guy and the thought of that really turns me off, whereas the thought of having sex with a girl feels a bit more natural and I'm more comfortable with it but I do feel a lot of I guess anxiety over it, like how it would feel and whether I'd be doing it right, not sure if that's just because I have a huge lack of sexual experience. I don't think I'm completely disinterested in sex though.
I get a boner looking at hot guys, but I never want to actually do anything sexual with them. I get the feeling that I'm bi but leaning towards straight because I think I'd do things with girls but probably not with guys.
So no kissing, cuddling, oral, mutual masturbation, frot? If when you think about "being with a guy" and the first thing that springs to mind is anal, you should know that not all gay and bi men are into that. Still, if really are not interested in any kid of intimate activity with a guy, then you're likely just straight. The fact that you can appreciate another man's beauty doesn't mean you necessarily want to have sex with men (which is kinda a must to classify a guy as gay/bi). I know a totally straight guy who has no problem saying stuff like "that guy looks great" (I likewise know gold sar gays who often say things like "that girl is so hot").
Interesting, I am in a little bit different situation. I like girls and I am sexually attracted to them, but never had a girlfriend because it wasn't that important to me. When it comes to guys, since I was 14 years old, I would get an erection when I would hug a guy (not every time), So I was telling myself, it is just a phase, I will grow out of it; however, I never did. When I was 19, it was my first time I saw a naked guy on the internet. At first I thought only gay porn movies nothing more, but then I got more use to the idea, and it took me time to find out what I would like to do with a guy. So the conclusion which I am trying to make is that give yourself time to find out what you like about guys. And the second thing is that I don't think you are gay, just because you never had a girlfriend it does not make you gay. You can be sexually attracted to women differently than to men, I have that. I think you are bi because you have these shifts, once you feel gay the other time you feel straight, and I have them too. BUT REMEMBER ONLY YOU CAN TELL WHAT IS YOUR REAL SEXUAL ORIENTATION.
I was talking to someone online about this...do you think it's really true? I wonder, what would people perceive me as if I said that a guy's good looking. The other person mentioned that I might just be jealous. Do you think that could be the case?
I don't think you're jealous, per say. It might just be that you admire other boys' physical looks. I have straight friends (girls) who, when talking about another girl, will say, "She's really pretty." They're not jealous, they just like how the other girl looks. :icon_bigg
Sounds like you're not very sexual in general, from what you've said I'd say you're straight maybe even borderline asexual. Also its perfectly natural for a straight man to admire another mans body it doesn't necessarily mean you're gay. As for women maybe you don't see them sexually which means you could still be straight or even have sex with women it just means you don't see a big pair of how roman bellic would put it "BIG AMERICAN TITTIES!" and get a boner
Doesn't matter what they perceive you as. We live in a society where we're bombarded with the idea that women are the "beautiful" ones, while men are just... there. That's why it's socially acceptable for even women to compliment the looks of other women. Back in ancient Greece things were the opposite, with men being the "beautiful" ones. All of this is just culturally determined, and has nothing to do with sexual orientation.
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