How do I know what my sexual orientation is if I have only been with men? I think I'm a lesbian or bisexual but I've never been with a woman? I have fantasies about women and crushes on women, but still....no actual experience to know for sure.
Porn does not really work well, but usually you can feel it somewhere.... Like a crush, I would say if you have had more than one, you can pretty surely say that if you like girls, you like girls
Well its kind of the same for me.. I haven't ever been with a guy but I'm pretty sure I'm gay. However I never liked kissing or doing anything with a girl. Only time will tell l, sometimes It's just a phase.
Ive only been with guys too, but i find myself attracted to females and wanting to be romantic w them...i felt the same way as you but then i reminded myself that if i was straight and never dated a guy, i wouldnt have had to been w one to know i was straight- its just something you know and feel. Does that make sense??
I'm sort of similar to you! I've been in two relationships with guys but never with any girls. I also can't say I've uh, "done anything" with anyone, but I can tell that I'm probably bisexual (still questioning). As someone else said, you should just pay attention to your feelings and go from there. :> I think you could very well be lesbian or bi, since you do say you have crushes on women.
Like others say, pay attention to your feelings. One thing I've become awfully conscious of since staring this thrilling little journey of self acceptance and discovery is that in public, I find myself noticing men without even trying. On the other hand, I see women, but generally don't pay much attention. I can go grocery shopping, and later that evening recall a man or two whom I saw. But draw a total blank trying to remember any women, except, of course, the ones I know who are cashiers. ---------- Post added 28th May 2013 at 03:38 PM ---------- This may not be your experience, but looking back to when I was a teenager (shortly after the War Between States ended), I did not think I was gay. Partly denial, partly lack of knowledge. But I do remember back then that I noticed boys without even trying. Indeed, all these years later, I can still remember what a lot of boys whom I never actually knew looked like. The only girls I really remember are ones I actually knew somewhat well, or had something about them that caused them to stick in my mind. (And the something was never anything like big boobs. It was something they did in class, or something along those lines.) Another clue: in junior high PE, we had single sex classes. Many boys spent a great deal of time trying to see the girls' classes. One boy even set up a petition asking the school for coed showers. Meanwhile, I had zero interest in what the girls were doing. But I sure noticed some of the guys in my class.
You can find the answers inside of yourself. You don't need to sleep with a woman to know you wanted to do it.
Just search inside yourself. You will find your true nature. You might have to rummage through some junk though. Happens to me all the time trying to find out what I really am.
I've never been with a man or a woman! Like, not even on a date, or remotely close to anything. No kissing, holding hands, zip, nada. It's just how I feel, I realised who I'm really attracted too, who I prefer, who I could really see myself dating, and having a long term relationship with.
Funny, a former girlfriend asked me that same things: "How can you know you're gay if you've never slept with a man?" I thought, "Seriously?" I have fantasized about guys since I was in my teens, consumed huge amounts of gay porn, fumbled several attempts to have sex with men, get way more aroused by the thought of gay sex than straight sex. . . How much evidence do I need? Also: Gotta stop thinking that there are hard and fast rules as to what labels like "gay" or "bi" mean. It's not a matter of you finding some pre-existing category and making yourself fit. It's about discovering what drives you, brings you deep pleasure, makes your toes curl. You can figure out what to call it later. I keep fighting this battle myself, reminding myself that I don't need to be gay according to some formula.
I knew I liked girls before I experienced anything with one. Just hugging a certain girl gave me butterflies. Then once a girl kissed me, I was floored. Being with a woman is so much more sensual than being with a guy, in my opinion. Reading the things you're saying, about having crushes on women and fantasizing about women, almost has be convinced that you are attracted to them.
