I'm 18 years old male, still virgin, and please excuse my bad English, It is not my primary language. I've always considered myself to be Asexual but now I think there might be a possibility I'm gay In my early childhood I didn't have that many friends, but most of my few friends were girls, but later when in High School I was always to shy to speak to anyone, and just like before I had few friends mostly guys now. I was not interested in sex but I remember I always wanted more attention from guys I liked or I thought were cute, I wouldn't say it was a crush because it was nothing serious I didn't think of sex or anything like that. Now I still think I'm Asexual, I don't find anyone to be sexually attractive and have no interest in losing my virginity. I don't get aroused when I watch porn I find it offensive and disgusting. But when I fantasize about me kissing some guy and doing the naughty stuff I get a little bit aroused by it. I think I'm just curious and want to know how its like. Now I can only see myself with a guy. Am I gay or Asexual or if possible, both?
It`s possible to be both gay and asexual, because you could be homo-romantic, hence only interested in romantic relations with other guys, only fall romantically for other guys and prefer intimacy when it`s with another man, rather with a woman. Intimacy is about more than sex, it`s about being close to someone both emotionally and physically, to enjoy comforting physical displays of affection that doesn`t have to be sexual in nature. It could also be that you simply haven`t found the right man yet to be with, and that your sexual interest could arise when with someone you trust and feel comfortable with. I don`t have that much experience with asexuality, so you`ll probably get better replies from someone else. But yes, you can be both gay and asexual
as FemCasanova said, you could be a homoromantic asexual. if you have never heard of romantic orientations before, maybe this video will help. QAC 03 - Romantic Orientations & Other Types of Attraction - YouTube
I think FemCasanova implied this, but you could also be demisexual, that is you only want sex when there is an emotional connection between the two of you . I'm sure a demisexual can provide more insight than I. But you could also be homo romantic asexual.
