Hi im back for more questions, so we went to a local coffee shop and i sorted it out with her, she says i that im confused when i told her i wasnt attracted to girls anymore, but i used to like girls, but theres something about guys that really attract me to them more than women. Should i just find the right girl to go out with, or experiment with dating guys, because as i look back i find that i was attracted women in fantasy, not in reality, they just never connected with me, even if a girl did, i just dont know about physical attraction. Guys, felt a lot more deeper to me, i mean i didnt feel attraction until this year and its so strong that i just cant imagine myself with a girl. My mom thinks ill grow out of it but, as i touched myself in the past, i always recollect of thinking of male genitalia, but i never acted on it, i just cant see myself with a girl, idk just more confusion, and im glad mom will love me no matter what, but my dad would kill me if i told him ---------- Post added 31st May 2013 at 12:22 PM ---------- My mom is the lady
Your dad won't kill you. He might be shocked and confused. He might respond with anger. But he'll get over it. And he'll grow and become a better person because of it. One thing I can guarantee you, it's not "just a phase." I prayed it was just a phase 45 years ago. That's a pretty long phase.
Wow I totally understand what you mean. I used to have little crushes on girls from middle school age and younger but once I got into high school...I can only fantasize about being with men.
Its just that when it comes to guys it feels more.... idk right, hell i even cuddled with a guy and i was attracted, nothing happened, but i really enjoyed it. Girls never had a spark with me as i ponder back in my life, but all of sudden guys became more attractive. I even thought i had a crush on a woman but... i knew it would never work because i knew it wouldnt last long, hell i dont know what i saw in her, but i guess it was what i thought i was supposed to be in attraction.
Yeah, that "deeper connection" with men is what sold me on being gay. Even though I had crushes on girls when I was young, and had girlfriends who I was sexually involved with, I always fantasized/dreamt about guys. (And I've never known someone to have a legitimate "gay phase", not to say it doesn't exist; but it's not nearly as common as just being gay)
