So I am bisexual and currently have a male partner. I'm 15 (no judging) and we have sex every other week or so. Lately I've been watching lesbian porn and masturbating to it, and its given me a better orgasm than my boyfriend ever has. I'm also really into bsdm, is that strange for someone my age? I was mostly just wondering what that meant about my sexuality?
I, personally, don't think it is strange. Between 13-17 I have heard is the main time you discover who you are. The whole bit with the masturbation giving you a better orgasm than your boyfriend, maybe he just sucks. I don't know, I don't want to know. It doesn't mean anything to your sexuality, to me.
Hi, I often find porn more satisfying because I can do exactly what feels good at the exact right pace for me. I don't think it's super weird. Maybe you can try and give your boyfriend pointers for what you like better. Don't feel too stressed about it. - Ellie
Remember, we're under pretty unique pressure to say we're "really just" gay or straight. Episodes like this can this send you into another fit of questioning (and it feels like we're questioning all the time). I'd just stick to your guns. You know what your feelings are. Men aren't always the greatest about sex with female-bodied humans anyway. Part of that is the prevailing vaginal orgasm myth (I'm told it's the clitoris, stupid). Another part of it is just that lady parts are complicated. Maybe try some polite coaching with him, if he could improve at sex, you can help him out in a way that's non-threatening and positive for both of you. Syster Adrian
I don't think it's strange. You like what you like and that should be OK with you. I don't think this means anything about your sexuality.
