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I've been having feelings for guys

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Abr123, Jun 5, 2013.

  1. Abr123

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    I've know that I have feeling for guys for about a year now but I don't know any people who are gay or know how to talk to one or meet other guys. So I haven't really done anything about my feelings. I've had a few crushes on guys but I was too scared to do anything about it. Ik one day I want to be with a guy so ik 100% sure. Over the last year my feelings for guys have gotten stronger .I was hoping I could talk to other people like me on here. I don't want to come out or anything until I'm really sure.
     
  2. Ikke

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    Even if you would know gay people in real life, it wouldn't be so easy to 'just' talk to them, believe me. But everyone here is very supportive, as far as I'm concerned.

    I don't think that you could actually be with someone of the same gender without at least coming out as 'confused'. I've heard watching porn works well too, what arouses you, and what doesn't? Also look at people around you, at school/work, who do you find attractive, and who not? I'm not convinced anyone could be 100% sure, but you can get at least some clarification.

    I know what you mean though. It's some kind of vicious circle: You can't be completely sure without coming out, but you don't want to come out before you're completely sure.
     
  3. FreeFlow9917

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    Hell, i was in the same boat until i realized i lost attraction to women and found them repulsive, when im closer to a guy i feel a lot safer, better, and happier. Than it hit me like a book that i actually held back my gay side for years. I used to always fantasize about women, and trust me it was good, than i had a relationship with one couple years back, i mean i liked her, but i wasnt into it, hell i never texted her because to me, it wasnt a priority i needed to do, and i just liked her as a friend, not anything special. Than i realize that i had a gay side i have been repressing for years when i had feelings of guys more than women and i never actually realized it until this year, maybe its a phase for me, maybe not, but im as sure as hell more attracted to guys than girls. I even learned to hide arousal :slight_smile: around guys i like.

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    This means a lot to me, and i have a crush on my best friend
    Oh welcome to EC

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    Girls never had that special click with me in life, and guys did